So today I was reading the New York Times and ran across an interesting story about middle age men who refuse to go back to work after being released from high paying jobs.
So there was one section about this cat named Alan, who is 53 and made this statement, "I have come to realize that my free time is a lot to me."
So instead of working he continues to draw money from the equity in his house and from the family savings. Then he continues by saying "If things really get tight, I might have to take a low wage job, but I don't want to do that."
Meanwhile all his wife, who is receiving a disability check, stands back and supports her man's decision not to work.
This is apparently a growing trend for men around the nation because these men feel like they should still be getting the top dollars they were getting in their previous gigs.
Manlaw is a bit perplexed about this situation.
Manlaw suggests that if a man makes a decision and means what he says, then you have to live with it and apparently his wife has and chosen not leave the relationship.
But Manlaw does not believe in just sitting on your ass either.
However, Manlaw can say this, a man's home is his castle.
Therefore it is ok for them to chill at home with no job, but it does not mean it is right if you are supporting a family.
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I read that shit too G. Personally, if the wife decided to stick with his trife ass and back his decision, that's fine. But I grew with hardworking black men, who worked those plant and factory jobs and if they got laid off, there was no hesitation to take the next job available, regardless of the pay.
Cause to them, the house is their castle and I agree. But they felt that it's important to keep that castle in order. And they do that by setting an example about making the best of any situation, i.e., bringing home SOME paper. And from reading that article, it seems that the yt women were the ones sticking with these fools.
Now finally, I don't think I would kick my man out as soon as he got laid off. But if he got the fam going in debt and wasting away the savings. The curb is where your ass will be. I am saying this from watching the men in my family. Cause they don't do no shit like that!
My first time here...LMAO @ the entire manlaw concept. I likes it!!!
As for old boy...Get da fuk outta here. You drawing from family savings and the equity in the crib. So in a couple more years we won't have any money saved and our house won't be worth shyt. Ummmmm nah bruh, you gone need a better plan then that.
I'm all for supporting my man if he is making a sensible decision, one that doesn't jepordize the well being of the family. He wanna be king of the castle then his azz better be prepared to provide for the kingdom as a king would. You can't do that by sucking up all the resources in the land.
He'd have to have a plan...say, I'm going to take a year off, use the time to start my own business, go back to school, search for a job that I am passionate about...Pick one you lazy bastard but you will not sit around on your azz all day destroy all chances and having a comfortable future. That's where you wrong!!!
I get the NYTimes delivered on my desk every morning.
so if it's also his mommas or his grannies is it still considered a castle? Cause most dudes I know on the "I don't work" kick caking off of some woman...
@G...I'm not sure I want to attach my wagon to these herbs. I'm too proud of an individual to sit on my ass and do nothing. Hell, I never take the easy way out of a situation and apparently these guys have.
-spc
I'm definitely not a cat who's gonna sit on his behind in any situation; Manlaw for me has always been 'you don't work, you don't eat.' But Hizzle, I'm wondering if you feel the same way about yourself, that there's no way you should ever be at home on your ass while your man pays the bills, even you as a couple can afford for that to be the case?
How many women can hold themselves to the same standard?
PoppaPimp, you make a good point. With the double standard about men and women working in society (it's not as prominant, but it's still there). I think it depends on how you were raised. The bottom line is, if there is agreement between the two people about the spouses actions, then leave between them to make the decision.
see, that's the thing. when women decide not to work, we aren't sitting on our asses. we're usually taking care of the household.
it's one thing to quit because you can afford to, but it's another thing to quit and, as someone said, put your family/castle in jeopardy because you are diminishing the savings.
that's just stupid.
let's keep it real, the value of work is viewed differently between the sexes. for most men, their entire ego is wrapped up in their provision. most men i know would feel like less of a man if they aren't providing for their family.
i'm not saying that as some carte blanche for women not to contribute. of course, we should. but the same way a man can't take care of the kids/household the way a woman can, a woman can't provide for the family the way a man can.
i don't mean that so literally by the way. it's just men and women do have roles, whether we choose to admit it or not. when those roles get confused, it leads to drama in the house.
think i just got a blog inspiration...
man besta get his ass back up and quit depleting our savings. wtf? a month maybe but while you're chillin at 53, do you want to go back to work or attempt to at 73 b/c we need to eat? i think not.
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