The problem is...(as the video below will explain) there are too many black single women and not enough black single men. Steve Harvey gives his take in the video...and my thoughts are below the video.
1) This is going to be painful to hear. I don't believe everyone is meant to be married. There are some people based on their personality and their lifestyle that make them hard to be attached to someone.
2) This is also going to be painful to hear. Some people (men and women) have standards that are ridiculous. For example, if you are a woman that's like 5-3...demanding any dude you are interested in has to be 6-feet or over is ridiculous. Now, that was kind of an extreme example but there are people who have "this mythical" check list that need to take a lot of stuff on it...OFF!
3) Every black man and woman has to do their share of introducing a single black friend of the same sex to a single black friend of the opposite sex. No one is saying going into the matchmaking business (although that might be another solution) but don't pass up an opportunity to help a friend out...who you know deserves to be with someone that will love and appreciate them.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Where to meet womem
O.K. Fellas.
You're single (and don't want to be) and you're looking for a woman. I go out often in New Jersey and New York City and sometimes in Philadelphia and here is what I've observed. There are too many of our beautiful women who are single and in most cases don't want to be.
It might be our fault. It might even be her fault. It could be both of our faults.
Something has to give.
Now, I can't promise you that she'll be single or even a woman that you would want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I've listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance. You're welcome to agree or disagree with me.
1) Weddings
2) Broadway plays and musicals.
3) Concerts of any adult male singer.
4) Happy Hours/Afterwork events
5) Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners in the Philly but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
6) Library
7) Spoken Word events
8) Fundraisers for charities
9) Museums
10) Any department store that has a good female shoe section.
11) Bookstores
12) Community service events
12) Wine tastings
13) Political events
14) Birthday parties of your single female friends
You're single (and don't want to be) and you're looking for a woman. I go out often in New Jersey and New York City and sometimes in Philadelphia and here is what I've observed. There are too many of our beautiful women who are single and in most cases don't want to be.
It might be our fault. It might even be her fault. It could be both of our faults.
Something has to give.
Now, I can't promise you that she'll be single or even a woman that you would want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I've listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance. You're welcome to agree or disagree with me.
1) Weddings
2) Broadway plays and musicals.
3) Concerts of any adult male singer.
4) Happy Hours/Afterwork events
5) Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners in the Philly but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
6) Library
7) Spoken Word events
8) Fundraisers for charities
9) Museums
10) Any department store that has a good female shoe section.
11) Bookstores
12) Community service events
12) Wine tastings
13) Political events
14) Birthday parties of your single female friends
Wednesday, December 02, 2009
Where to Meet Men
O.K. Ladies.
You're single (and don't want to be). Don't shake your head...you know I'm talking the truth. Stop listening to your girlfriends and for once listen to a man that can tell you where to find men.
Now, I can't promise you that he'll be single or even a man that you want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance.
1) Happy Hours/After work events.
My professional male friends and I have made the transition to attending more happy hours and after work events than staying out late.The reason being...most of us have to go to work in the morning but we still want to socialize with the professional crowd. The drinks are cheap. The music is usually good. People tend to loosen up when alcohol is involved. Also, you'll more than likely catch him in his Sunday best...since he just got off of work, which theses days is a very good thing. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the bar or a television...and make sure to smile (I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH) at any guy you think is cute.
2) Library
Every woman should love an intelligent man and especially one that reads a lot or has an extensive vocabulary. A man that knows his way around the library should be a man that has the key to your heart. Women tend to read...a lot more...than men and it seems to me that women dominate every book club that I hear about. Wouldn't it be nice to find a man that reads as much as you do? And wouldn't it be nice to have a stimulating conversation with a man about the hottest books on the bestseller lists? I think it is time to update your library card and find a good seat near the entrance.
3) Ski Trips
A lot of men like sports. A lot of men go on ski trips. Now, before anyone jumps all over me...I know a lot of people don't actually ski on ski trips. It is about socializing and what better way to interact with men than in front of a fireplace on a cold winter day/night. Most ski trips usually involve a bus ride to and from the ski location and that's plenty of time to talk. If you see a cutie, sit near him on the bus ride and strike up a conversation. Don't wait too long though because women tend to outnumber guys on ski trips...so you want to get ahead of the competition...if you know what I mean.
4) Spoken Word Events
I don't know a woman that doesn't love a man who is a spoken word artist or a man that appreciates listening to good spoken word. It is such a relaxing activity and add in a glass of wine/or your favorite beverage and it is a can't miss type of evening. You're probably not going to find a lot of men at a spoken word event...so pay attention to any guy that does show up. If he has the courage to get on stage or pick up the microphone...then you should probably bump him up on your priority list. If he does perform, you'll get a chance to learn how his mind works (the clean and probably the dirty version). Women always want to know what men are thinking and he'll probably make that task easy for you. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the front or near the entrance...and if you are a spoken word artist yourself...get on stage and wet his appetite.
5) Sports Bars
This should be obvious. If you don't actually see a sporting event live, the next best thing is to go to a sports bar. And guess what you'll find there...Men...Men and more Men. Now, if you absolutely hate sports...then this isn't a place you should try. If you can at least tolerate sports (don't need to be an expert or anything) this might be a gold mine. Find a sports bar that has the NFL ticket in the Fall and visit on a Sunday afternoon or catch the Sunday Night Football game. If you can hang late on a Monday night...go for the Monday Night Football game. Later in the season, the NFL plays games on Thursday nights. Of course, there are the NFL playoffs and those games are always on Saturday evenings and Sunday afternoons. And of course there is always the Super Bowl. Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. Don't neglect the NCAA men's basketball tournament in March or the NBA playoffs in May and June or the MLB playoffs in late September and the month of October.
6) Super Bowl Parties
Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. It is the most watched sporting event in the world and guess what a lot of men will be watching the game and hopefully at the party that you are going to. Sit near the TV or near the alcohol table (men like to drink too) so you'll get a bird's eye-view of which guys might not be paying attention to every detail in the game and instead checking you out. At halftime, move closer to your target and strike up a conversation about a big play in the first half. At the end of the game, you both should have already exchanged information.
7) Weddings
I strongly suggest that women attend the weddings of single male friends because every man that is getting married wants his male friends to witness it. You might get stuck at the singles table at the wedding reception but you can always walk around and talk to anyone that is interesting. When the music comes on...get on the dance floor and show what you got. But of course, keep it classy and don't get drunk and start falling all over yourself. Keep it classy. Of course, if he has a wedding ring on...look but DON'T TOUCH. You don't want another black woman trying to cut you. lol.
Birthday parties of your single male friends
For pretty much the same reason listed above for weddings, birthday parties of single male friends is one of the highest concentration of places you'll find other single men. If there is a guy that you have your eye on...ask the host (your male friend) what's the deal with him. He might even put in a good word for you to his boy and let the matchmaking begin.
Other places you are likely to bump into some men via suggestions from female friends who have found mates by meeting them at the following places.
Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners that I know but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
Fundraisers for charities
Bookstores
Community service events
Political events
You're single (and don't want to be). Don't shake your head...you know I'm talking the truth. Stop listening to your girlfriends and for once listen to a man that can tell you where to find men.
Now, I can't promise you that he'll be single or even a man that you want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance.
1) Happy Hours/After work events.
My professional male friends and I have made the transition to attending more happy hours and after work events than staying out late.The reason being...most of us have to go to work in the morning but we still want to socialize with the professional crowd. The drinks are cheap. The music is usually good. People tend to loosen up when alcohol is involved. Also, you'll more than likely catch him in his Sunday best...since he just got off of work, which theses days is a very good thing. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the bar or a television...and make sure to smile (I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH) at any guy you think is cute.
2) Library
Every woman should love an intelligent man and especially one that reads a lot or has an extensive vocabulary. A man that knows his way around the library should be a man that has the key to your heart. Women tend to read...a lot more...than men and it seems to me that women dominate every book club that I hear about. Wouldn't it be nice to find a man that reads as much as you do? And wouldn't it be nice to have a stimulating conversation with a man about the hottest books on the bestseller lists? I think it is time to update your library card and find a good seat near the entrance.
3) Ski Trips
A lot of men like sports. A lot of men go on ski trips. Now, before anyone jumps all over me...I know a lot of people don't actually ski on ski trips. It is about socializing and what better way to interact with men than in front of a fireplace on a cold winter day/night. Most ski trips usually involve a bus ride to and from the ski location and that's plenty of time to talk. If you see a cutie, sit near him on the bus ride and strike up a conversation. Don't wait too long though because women tend to outnumber guys on ski trips...so you want to get ahead of the competition...if you know what I mean.
4) Spoken Word Events
I don't know a woman that doesn't love a man who is a spoken word artist or a man that appreciates listening to good spoken word. It is such a relaxing activity and add in a glass of wine/or your favorite beverage and it is a can't miss type of evening. You're probably not going to find a lot of men at a spoken word event...so pay attention to any guy that does show up. If he has the courage to get on stage or pick up the microphone...then you should probably bump him up on your priority list. If he does perform, you'll get a chance to learn how his mind works (the clean and probably the dirty version). Women always want to know what men are thinking and he'll probably make that task easy for you. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the front or near the entrance...and if you are a spoken word artist yourself...get on stage and wet his appetite.
5) Sports Bars
This should be obvious. If you don't actually see a sporting event live, the next best thing is to go to a sports bar. And guess what you'll find there...Men...Men and more Men. Now, if you absolutely hate sports...then this isn't a place you should try. If you can at least tolerate sports (don't need to be an expert or anything) this might be a gold mine. Find a sports bar that has the NFL ticket in the Fall and visit on a Sunday afternoon or catch the Sunday Night Football game. If you can hang late on a Monday night...go for the Monday Night Football game. Later in the season, the NFL plays games on Thursday nights. Of course, there are the NFL playoffs and those games are always on Saturday evenings and Sunday afternoons. And of course there is always the Super Bowl. Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. Don't neglect the NCAA men's basketball tournament in March or the NBA playoffs in May and June or the MLB playoffs in late September and the month of October.
6) Super Bowl Parties
Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. It is the most watched sporting event in the world and guess what a lot of men will be watching the game and hopefully at the party that you are going to. Sit near the TV or near the alcohol table (men like to drink too) so you'll get a bird's eye-view of which guys might not be paying attention to every detail in the game and instead checking you out. At halftime, move closer to your target and strike up a conversation about a big play in the first half. At the end of the game, you both should have already exchanged information.
7) Weddings
I strongly suggest that women attend the weddings of single male friends because every man that is getting married wants his male friends to witness it. You might get stuck at the singles table at the wedding reception but you can always walk around and talk to anyone that is interesting. When the music comes on...get on the dance floor and show what you got. But of course, keep it classy and don't get drunk and start falling all over yourself. Keep it classy. Of course, if he has a wedding ring on...look but DON'T TOUCH. You don't want another black woman trying to cut you. lol.
Birthday parties of your single male friends
For pretty much the same reason listed above for weddings, birthday parties of single male friends is one of the highest concentration of places you'll find other single men. If there is a guy that you have your eye on...ask the host (your male friend) what's the deal with him. He might even put in a good word for you to his boy and let the matchmaking begin.
Other places you are likely to bump into some men via suggestions from female friends who have found mates by meeting them at the following places.
Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners that I know but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
Fundraisers for charities
Bookstores
Community service events
Political events
Wednesday, November 04, 2009
The Single Black Male
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Virginia's biggest loser +1
So, William Taylor (left) really messed up. And his wife made him pay by wearing this silly sign admitting his adultery.------------------------------------
Manlaw: Is this the new punishment for adultery? I hope not because no one is winning here.
William is "suffering" temporary embarrassment by wearing this silly sign but did he really learn his lesson and will he never cheat on his wife again?
We don't know that for sure.
His wife doesn't win either because the world now knows her husband stepped out on her and her marriage. I hope there are no kids in this family because they've been exposed to unnecessary shame not to mention family and friends that know these two idiots.
So, Mrs. Taylor if you really want to make a statement next time, do it quietly and file for divorce or better yet...stop with the gimmicks and make your cheating husband sleep on the couch with no sex for a month...that's if you plan to forgive him. If not, go with option No. 1 and keep the rest of the world out of your marriage.
Saturday, August 22, 2009
"My Affair Wasn't 'Legally Wrong' "
This is the most wack excuse ever. I am sure every cheating man in America has considered using that excuse. However, I am sure Ensign is the only guy to ever actually use it. If I was to ever cheat, I am going to use a better line. Here are some good examples:
"Babe, it was an accident. I kind of slipped, fell, and landed in the va-jay-jay"
" I was drunk"
" My heart ain't got nothing to do with my penis. He says that you are still his favorite (Thanks Kanye)"
All of these are better than "my affair wasn't legally wrong".
Monday, July 27, 2009
50 Grand a month for some....
I can't even finish the phrase from Method Man talking about the $55,000 Kelis was awarded in child support and spousal support from Nas recently. I saw that 75 percent of that money is for spousal support and the other 25 percent is for child support.
You can search on Youtube for the NC-17 rated clip as Method Man and Redman voice their opinion on child support and spousal support.
Removing the "derogatory lines" out of straight frustration. I agree 1 million percent with the underlying message that Method Man and Redman are saying.
Long term spousal support is wrong.
My thoughts: If you were making an income, then spousal support should be a
one-time payment equal to your total earnings from the previous tax year. If you
were not making an income, then spousal support should be a one-time payment
equaled to what the richer party spent on the spouse the previous tax year.
College fund as part of child support.
My thoughts: I don't know if this is standard but it probably should be. As part
of the child support package, I would like to see men have to dedicate money to
a college fund THAT THE MOTHER CAN'T TOUCH and only the child can reclaim on
their 18th birthday. If the child should die before their 18th birthday, the
mother should then get the money or have the money split between the mother and
father.
You can search on Youtube for the NC-17 rated clip as Method Man and Redman voice their opinion on child support and spousal support.
Removing the "derogatory lines" out of straight frustration. I agree 1 million percent with the underlying message that Method Man and Redman are saying.
Long term spousal support is wrong.
My thoughts: If you were making an income, then spousal support should be a
one-time payment equal to your total earnings from the previous tax year. If you
were not making an income, then spousal support should be a one-time payment
equaled to what the richer party spent on the spouse the previous tax year.
College fund as part of child support.
My thoughts: I don't know if this is standard but it probably should be. As part
of the child support package, I would like to see men have to dedicate money to
a college fund THAT THE MOTHER CAN'T TOUCH and only the child can reclaim on
their 18th birthday. If the child should die before their 18th birthday, the
mother should then get the money or have the money split between the mother and
father.
Monday, June 01, 2009
He Shoots, He Scores
I never thought anyone could give the Shawn Kemp's (seven kids by six women) or the Travis Henry's (11 kids by 10 women) a run for their money but I've got a name for you.
Desmond Hatchet
He's 29 and get this (insert drum roll music)...he's got 21 kids by 11 women. Mr. Hatchet you sir are a winner. Of course, I'm being facetious.
Yes. He's got Kemp beat by 2 touchdowns and he's got Henry, a football player for that matter, beat by a touchdown and a field goal. And here's the kicker: he's got a minimum wage job (which wasn't identified in the clip). So, if you are a resident of the state of Tennessee, you should be angry because you are paying for all those "x" and "y" chromosomes
I understand everyone has civil rights and the government shouldn't be telling people how many kids they can have BUT...Mr. Hatchet's case is utterly ridiculous. According to the clip, the state of Tennessee can only take half of his wages but considering he's on minimum wage that can't be a lot. And when you start dividing that 21 ways...we are probably talking a few dollars and even a fewer cents.
Obviously, Hatchet deserves every ounce of blame thrown his way but wait a minute, the women in this case are not angels and obviously they are not too bright either. It is not like he's worth millions and we can clearly see you are just after a piece of his money. That I can begrudgingly accept...I'm going to still call you trifling but we at least know you had a plan.
A friend had the best Facebook status to describe how I feel about the women: "Clearly Mr. "I'm 29 and I have 20-21 kids" is pitiful. But what's the adjective for baby momma #3-#11? Ignorance is bliss and it will also get you $1.89 in child support."
I laughed when I read the status message but clearly this isn't funny and baby momma No. 3 to No. 11 have some explaining to do. I can only imagine what they said to their parents. "Hey....mom and dad. I've got a surprise for you. I'm having a baby with Desmond. Yeah. He's got...um....I'm not sure how many kids he's got really."
Well, baby momma "No. 3 to No. 11" you should checked how many kids he had. You also should have done some research (based on the state you live in) on the child support laws. Most importantly, you should have made him wear a condom. Because clearly, you are not ready to be a mother if you are depending on a man with a minimum wage job and an exponential amount of illegitimate kids to support you. I thought people took STDs, STIs, HIV and AIDS seriously but we've found one extreme example of adults who don't get it.
Let's be real. This guy's game can't be that good that he convinced 11 women to let him go raw. It may be true but I just can't buy it. I also can't believe that there were nine women that just wanted to add onto this family tree. That may be true too but I just can't buy it.
Manlaw and womanlaw: This will probably never happen (because of civil rights laws) but the state of Tennessee needs to make an example of Mr. Hatchet and his bevy of women. The state shouldn't support any more kids that he has. Period. Not one penny. Also, the state should change the laws to go after 75 percent of his check or change the law that says after a certain amount of kids the percentage the state takes goes up. I'm not sure how you punish the women but I think if you start educating young women about the child support laws that might be a start. The basic premise should be this: the more kids a man has the less in child support you are going to get. So, it probably isn't wise to be baby momma No. 3 to No. 11. Let me backtrack again, maybe the state of Tennessee needs to get tough and start pushing vasectomies and tubal ligations. At least, these careless individuals can screw up their own lives and not bring innocent children into the world. Maybe even create a baby daddy or baby momma registry.
Monday, April 13, 2009
Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man Discussion (Part 2)
I want to say thank you to the 165 people that tuned into the live chat on Easter Sunday. I'm not sure if all the chatters were women but I suspect a very good portion were that night. Thank you for the support.
I hope you enjoyed the comments from my man Keith and I about the topics that Steve Harvey mentioned in his book. Someone asked when are we going to do a chat like this again and the honest answer is, I don't know.
If someone wants our thoughts (the male perspective...that is) on a specific topic about dating e-mail us at brothersmanlaw@yahoo.com and I'll see if I can't turn it into a blog entry or another chat.
Once again thanks for making the 4 hour and 47 minute chat (I was only planning on 2 hours max...lol) a total success.
I hope you enjoyed the comments from my man Keith and I about the topics that Steve Harvey mentioned in his book. Someone asked when are we going to do a chat like this again and the honest answer is, I don't know.
If someone wants our thoughts (the male perspective...that is) on a specific topic about dating e-mail us at brothersmanlaw@yahoo.com and I'll see if I can't turn it into a blog entry or another chat.
Once again thanks for making the 4 hour and 47 minute chat (I was only planning on 2 hours max...lol) a total success.
Thursday, April 09, 2009
Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man Discussion...
Please come back on Sunday, April 12 at 7 p.m. as I'll host an online discussion about Steve Harvey's book "Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man."
I agreed with about 65 percent of what Steve Harvey said. The book is hilarious and even if you think Steve Harvey is full of himself...the book is worth a look. On Sunday evening, I'm going to give the non-celebrity man's point-of-view of what Steve Havey was saying.
See you then.
I agreed with about 65 percent of what Steve Harvey said. The book is hilarious and even if you think Steve Harvey is full of himself...the book is worth a look. On Sunday evening, I'm going to give the non-celebrity man's point-of-view of what Steve Havey was saying.
See you then.
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Lets Talk
From MSNBC.com
By Associated Press:
Police in Connecticut say a woman attempting to reconcile with her husband handcuffed herself to him as he slept and then bit him on his torso and arms.
By Associated Press:
Police in Connecticut say a woman attempting to reconcile with her husband handcuffed herself to him as he slept and then bit him on his torso and arms.
Police say 37-year-old Helen Sun told them she wanted to have a conversation with husband Robert Drawbough without him leaving. Police say she changed the locks on their bedroom and handcuffed herself to Drawbough while he was sleeping Monday.
Drawbough used a cell phone to call police. Officers heard his screams when they arrived at the couple's Fairfield home. He was treated at a local hospital.
Police charged Sun with third-degree assault, disorderly conduct, reckless endangerment and unlawful restraint. She was due in Bridgeport Superior Court on Tuesday.
Manlaw: Only allow her to handcuff you if it comes with a "happy ending"
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Please Allow Me To Introduce Myself
Name: Epsilonicus
Age: 22
Nationality: Black American
Status: In A Relationship
Location: East Coast, USA
Important Information: The leader of the Man-Law Revival Movement. This movement feels that the metrosexualization of men has caused many of them to forget the laws that men hold dear and sacred. This movement works to keep man-law alive. These rules have helped many men throughout the millenia.
Epsilonicus, although in a relationship, does offer wingman services. If you need these services, you know where to find him.
He mentors young men in the ways getting a date and keeping a woman. This service is provided mostly to college age men but can be offered more widely since it is definitely needed.
He is now a contributing writer to the Brother's ManLaw blog. He hopes that all the readers enjoy his tenure as a contributing writer.
Monday, March 09, 2009
Public Service Annoucement for the Ladies
-Written By A Woman
Honestly, I’m tired of hearing chicks say, “Men ain’t ish.” While this may be true some of the time, have you ever stopped to think that maybe it’s something that you’re doing that is making men not want to stop and talk to you? You could just be unapproachable and that is why you can’t find a decent man. Maybe it’s something beyond your control, but then again maybe it’s not. Try to check the following:
Your Expressions:
Body language can tell a lot about a person like whether they’re mad or happy, or if they’re too busy to be bothered. You cannot go out somewhere and expect to meet men if you’re going to sit in the same spot all night with your arms folded across your chest. Men feed off your energy so if you want to meet someone you will have to be aware of your body language at all times. You don’t want the same ugly no good men walking up to you asking, “Why you looking so mean?” You know they’re bold and don’t care. Keep a pleasant look on your face and uncross your arms. This is an invite to let men into your space.
Your Appearance:
So you’re really walking out the house with curlers in your hair and your toes hanging over your flip flops? This is a no-no if you’re trying to catch a positive eye. Mr. Right could be out there but he’s going to look right over you and put you in the “hell no” category. If you have on sandals, make sure they are the right size and your toes are done. And if you have to keep your hair tied up, try to at least do it stylishly with a silky scarf…think Alicia Keys “Unbreakable” video. A good man wants his lady to look nice when she steps out.
Who you’re with:
“You’re only as good as the company you keep.” So why are choosing the loudest friends you have to go party with? You know the ones that dance on top of the bar and grab guys to get their attention and to buy them drinks. Sure, you all have a good time when you’re out. But save them for ladies nights when you aren’t thinking about men. If he see’s you with them, more than likely, he will think you act just like them and will ignore any eye contact you give him.
Manlaw: Already explained in the first paragraph by the female ghost writer.
Honestly, I’m tired of hearing chicks say, “Men ain’t ish.” While this may be true some of the time, have you ever stopped to think that maybe it’s something that you’re doing that is making men not want to stop and talk to you? You could just be unapproachable and that is why you can’t find a decent man. Maybe it’s something beyond your control, but then again maybe it’s not. Try to check the following:
Your Expressions:
Body language can tell a lot about a person like whether they’re mad or happy, or if they’re too busy to be bothered. You cannot go out somewhere and expect to meet men if you’re going to sit in the same spot all night with your arms folded across your chest. Men feed off your energy so if you want to meet someone you will have to be aware of your body language at all times. You don’t want the same ugly no good men walking up to you asking, “Why you looking so mean?” You know they’re bold and don’t care. Keep a pleasant look on your face and uncross your arms. This is an invite to let men into your space.
Your Appearance:
So you’re really walking out the house with curlers in your hair and your toes hanging over your flip flops? This is a no-no if you’re trying to catch a positive eye. Mr. Right could be out there but he’s going to look right over you and put you in the “hell no” category. If you have on sandals, make sure they are the right size and your toes are done. And if you have to keep your hair tied up, try to at least do it stylishly with a silky scarf…think Alicia Keys “Unbreakable” video. A good man wants his lady to look nice when she steps out.
Who you’re with:
“You’re only as good as the company you keep.” So why are choosing the loudest friends you have to go party with? You know the ones that dance on top of the bar and grab guys to get their attention and to buy them drinks. Sure, you all have a good time when you’re out. But save them for ladies nights when you aren’t thinking about men. If he see’s you with them, more than likely, he will think you act just like them and will ignore any eye contact you give him.
Manlaw: Already explained in the first paragraph by the female ghost writer.
Monday, February 16, 2009
They've got the pill for you in Sweden and Finland
if you have premature ejaculation problems. Not something that I need help with but for those of you suffering from this problem you might want to read the story below and then my comments afterwards.
J&J Ejaculation Pill, World’s First, Wins Approvals (Update2)
By Alex Nussbaum
Feb. 10 (Bloomberg) -- Johnson & Johnson won approval in Sweden and Finland for the first prescription pill to treat premature ejaculation, three years after U.S. regulators rejected the drug, the company said.
The drugmaker expects to win clearance for dapoxetine, to be sold as Priligy, in five more European nations and has applied for approval in Canada, Australia, Mexico, Turkey and six other countries, said Greg Panico, a spokesman for New Brunswick, New Jersey-based J&J, today in a telephone interview. The pill, taken a few hours before intercourse, should be in European drugstores by April, he said.
“There’s a globally significant market” for premature ejaculation treatments, Panico said. He declined to estimate sales.
Dapoxetine may generate $575 million a year by 2011 for the company, said Michael Weinstein, a JPMorgan Chase & Co. analyst in New York, in an Oct. 29 note to clients. It’s one of several drugs J&J is developing to replace revenue it expects to lose to generic competition to top-selling medications such as the antipsychotic Risperdal, he said.
Johnson & Johnson fell $1.77, or 3 percent, to $56.73 in New York Stock Exchange composite trading at 4 p.m.. The company has lost 8.5 percent over 12 months.
Potential Patients
From 4 percent to 30 percent of men worldwide suffer premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, Panico said. Estimates vary because some men are embarrassed to admit the condition, he said. J&J defined the condition as ejaculation within a minute of penetration. The Merck Manual of Medical Information defines it as ejaculation sooner than men or their partners would like.
The U.S. Food and Drug Administration turned down J&J’s application to sell dapoxetine in 2006 without explanation. Panico wouldn’t discuss the FDA rejection. He said J&J was “keeping its options open” to resubmit the pill in the U.S.
Dapoxetine neutralizes a chemical messenger in the brain called serotonin, the neurotransmitter also affected by antidepressants such as Eli Lilly & Co.'s Prozac. The antidepressants also may be prescribed to treat premature ejaculation, according to the National Institutes of Health.
The serotonin-targeting drugs have been subject of thousands of lawsuits against companies including Pfizer Inc., GlaxoSmithKline Plc.and Merck & Co.by patients who say the medicines increased the risk of suicide.
Five clinical trials involving 6,000 men using dapoxetine found no evidence suicide or suicidal thoughts increased, Panico said. J&J’s drug is taken as needed, so it should pose fewer potential dangers than antidepressants taken regularly, he said.
The drug was originally developed by Lilly as a potential antidepressant and licensed to J&J, Panico said. The company is also awaiting decisions on approval in Austria, Germany, Spain, Italy and Portugal, said a statement morning by Janssen-Cilag EMEA, the J&J unit marketing the drug.
Manlaw: First, Viagra and now this. What will they think of next? The sound you hear is about 1.5 million women clapping hard and asking when they can get their hands on this pill for the men in their lives. It is probably one of the most embarrassing things in a man's life to "come" too early and probably one of the most frustrating things in a woman's life to have to deal with a guy that does this often. I can see some very bold women ordering this pill in bulk and keeping it in the medicine cabinet, just in case. You have to figure good men are hard to find and good men that make women "come" like a river are even more rare. Now, does anyone see it as being hypocritical to approve Viagra but not approve a pill like this?
J&J Ejaculation Pill, World’s First, Wins Approvals (Update2)
By Alex Nussbaum
Feb. 10 (Bloomberg) -- Johnson & Johnson won approval in Sweden and Finland for the first prescription pill to treat premature ejaculation, three years after U.S. regulators rejected the drug, the company said.
The drugmaker expects to win clearance for dapoxetine, to be sold as Priligy, in five more European nations and has applied for approval in Canada, Australia, Mexico, Turkey and six other countries, said Greg Panico, a spokesman for New Brunswick, New Jersey-based J&J, today in a telephone interview. The pill, taken a few hours before intercourse, should be in European drugstores by April, he said.
“There’s a globally significant market” for premature ejaculation treatments, Panico said. He declined to estimate sales.
Dapoxetine may generate $575 million a year by 2011 for the company, said Michael Weinstein, a JPMorgan Chase & Co. analyst in New York, in an Oct. 29 note to clients. It’s one of several drugs J&J is developing to replace revenue it expects to lose to generic competition to top-selling medications such as the antipsychotic Risperdal, he said.
Johnson & Johnson fell $1.77, or 3 percent, to $56.73 in New York Stock Exchange composite trading at 4 p.m.. The company has lost 8.5 percent over 12 months.
Potential Patients
From 4 percent to 30 percent of men worldwide suffer premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, Panico said. Estimates vary because some men are embarrassed to admit the condition, he said. J&J defined the condition as ejaculation within a minute of penetration. The Merck Manual of Medical Information defines it as ejaculation sooner than men or their partners would like.
The U.S. Food and Drug Administration turned down J&J’s application to sell dapoxetine in 2006 without explanation. Panico wouldn’t discuss the FDA rejection. He said J&J was “keeping its options open” to resubmit the pill in the U.S.
Dapoxetine neutralizes a chemical messenger in the brain called serotonin, the neurotransmitter also affected by antidepressants such as Eli Lilly & Co.'s Prozac. The antidepressants also may be prescribed to treat premature ejaculation, according to the National Institutes of Health.
The serotonin-targeting drugs have been subject of thousands of lawsuits against companies including Pfizer Inc., GlaxoSmithKline Plc.and Merck & Co.by patients who say the medicines increased the risk of suicide.
Five clinical trials involving 6,000 men using dapoxetine found no evidence suicide or suicidal thoughts increased, Panico said. J&J’s drug is taken as needed, so it should pose fewer potential dangers than antidepressants taken regularly, he said.
The drug was originally developed by Lilly as a potential antidepressant and licensed to J&J, Panico said. The company is also awaiting decisions on approval in Austria, Germany, Spain, Italy and Portugal, said a statement morning by Janssen-Cilag EMEA, the J&J unit marketing the drug.
Manlaw: First, Viagra and now this. What will they think of next? The sound you hear is about 1.5 million women clapping hard and asking when they can get their hands on this pill for the men in their lives. It is probably one of the most embarrassing things in a man's life to "come" too early and probably one of the most frustrating things in a woman's life to have to deal with a guy that does this often. I can see some very bold women ordering this pill in bulk and keeping it in the medicine cabinet, just in case. You have to figure good men are hard to find and good men that make women "come" like a river are even more rare. Now, does anyone see it as being hypocritical to approve Viagra but not approve a pill like this?
Monday, February 09, 2009
A baby daddy for every day of the week?
We often throw the book at musicians, actors, athletes...etc... (basically men that are blessed with an insane amounts of money) when they go populating the world with children through their various baby mommas.
We quote scripture (chapter and verse) of how these men have no morals.
But rarely, if ever, do we take aim at women who are just as guilty, if not worse, than the same men we ridiculed on the gossips pages of tabloids and on the various celebrity gossip blogs.
It is a double standard that must change. If we're going to convict men in the court of public opinion for not "wrapping it up" then these same women must all serve the time for the same crime.
I mean...seriously....how many baby daddies do you really need Sinead O'Connor? Christie Brinkley? Faith Evans? Erykah Badu? Just to name a few.
Sinead O’Connor is pregnant with her FOURTH baby. She is due Christmas Eve. The baby daddy is her partner Frank Bonadio. Her other children are Jake, 18, with first husband, drummer John Reynolds; Roisin, 10, with Irish Times columnist John Waters; and two-year- old Shane, with musician Donal Lunny.
Christie Brinkley: Married FOUR times, THREE kids, THREE baby daddies. 1) Alexa Ray Joel, (born December 29, 1985), with Billy Joel. The name "Ray" was given to Alexa in honour to Ray Charles. 2) Jack Paris Taubman, (born June 2, 1995), with Richard Taubman. He was later adopted by Peter Cook and named Jack Paris Brinkley Cook. 3) Sailor Lee Brinkley Cook (born July 2, 1998), with Peter Cook.
Faith Evans: FOURTH Kids, THREE Baby Daddies: At 18, Evans won a scholarship to Fordham University in New York City to major in marketing. After a year, she left because she had a daughter, Chyna Griffin, with music producer Kiyamma Griffin. Evans married The Notorious B.I.G. nine days after meeting at a photoshoot. The marriage was turbulent as B.I.G. reportedly had affairs with Lil Kim and Charli Baltimore. But the two did reunite and their son Christopher Wallace, Jr. was born on October 29, 1996. In late 1997 Evans became pregnant by Todd Russaw. Her son Joshua was born later that year and the two married in summer 1998. In 2008 they had son Ryder Evan Russaw.
Erykah Badu: THREE KIDS, THREE baby daddies. Badu has a son named Seven Sirius born in 1997 with ex-partner André 3000 of OutKast. On July 5, 2004, Badu gave birth to a daughter, Puma Rose Sabti, in her Dallas home; Puma's father is West Coast rapper The D.O.C. who is originally from Dallas, Texas. She also dated rapper Common from 2000 to 2002. On February 1, 2009 Badu gave birth to her third child at home, a girl named Mars Merkaba, with her boyfriend of four years, rapper Jay Electronica.
Manlaw: I think it is time we start playing that clip from Madea's Family Reunion to our sons. The clip where Madea's loud-mouth brother, Joe, warns Boris Kodjoe's character that Vanessa is FERTILE because she's a single mother with two kids. Now, the movie scene, although a bit harsh, does have a point. Do you really want to be the third (or fourth or fifth) baby daddy? I think not. Back in the day, people were ashamed to be having a kid out of wedlock, now it is commonplace. And someone needs to have a SERIOUS chat with Erykah. Seven, Puma and Mars as baby names? GTFOHWTBS.
We quote scripture (chapter and verse) of how these men have no morals.
But rarely, if ever, do we take aim at women who are just as guilty, if not worse, than the same men we ridiculed on the gossips pages of tabloids and on the various celebrity gossip blogs.
It is a double standard that must change. If we're going to convict men in the court of public opinion for not "wrapping it up" then these same women must all serve the time for the same crime.
I mean...seriously....how many baby daddies do you really need Sinead O'Connor? Christie Brinkley? Faith Evans? Erykah Badu? Just to name a few.
Sinead O’Connor is pregnant with her FOURTH baby. She is due Christmas Eve. The baby daddy is her partner Frank Bonadio. Her other children are Jake, 18, with first husband, drummer John Reynolds; Roisin, 10, with Irish Times columnist John Waters; and two-year- old Shane, with musician Donal Lunny.
Christie Brinkley: Married FOUR times, THREE kids, THREE baby daddies. 1) Alexa Ray Joel, (born December 29, 1985), with Billy Joel. The name "Ray" was given to Alexa in honour to Ray Charles. 2) Jack Paris Taubman, (born June 2, 1995), with Richard Taubman. He was later adopted by Peter Cook and named Jack Paris Brinkley Cook. 3) Sailor Lee Brinkley Cook (born July 2, 1998), with Peter Cook.
Faith Evans: FOURTH Kids, THREE Baby Daddies: At 18, Evans won a scholarship to Fordham University in New York City to major in marketing. After a year, she left because she had a daughter, Chyna Griffin, with music producer Kiyamma Griffin. Evans married The Notorious B.I.G. nine days after meeting at a photoshoot. The marriage was turbulent as B.I.G. reportedly had affairs with Lil Kim and Charli Baltimore. But the two did reunite and their son Christopher Wallace, Jr. was born on October 29, 1996. In late 1997 Evans became pregnant by Todd Russaw. Her son Joshua was born later that year and the two married in summer 1998. In 2008 they had son Ryder Evan Russaw.
Erykah Badu: THREE KIDS, THREE baby daddies. Badu has a son named Seven Sirius born in 1997 with ex-partner André 3000 of OutKast. On July 5, 2004, Badu gave birth to a daughter, Puma Rose Sabti, in her Dallas home; Puma's father is West Coast rapper The D.O.C. who is originally from Dallas, Texas. She also dated rapper Common from 2000 to 2002. On February 1, 2009 Badu gave birth to her third child at home, a girl named Mars Merkaba, with her boyfriend of four years, rapper Jay Electronica.
Manlaw: I think it is time we start playing that clip from Madea's Family Reunion to our sons. The clip where Madea's loud-mouth brother, Joe, warns Boris Kodjoe's character that Vanessa is FERTILE because she's a single mother with two kids. Now, the movie scene, although a bit harsh, does have a point. Do you really want to be the third (or fourth or fifth) baby daddy? I think not. Back in the day, people were ashamed to be having a kid out of wedlock, now it is commonplace. And someone needs to have a SERIOUS chat with Erykah. Seven, Puma and Mars as baby names? GTFOHWTBS.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Women Can Smell a Man's Sexual Intentions?
By Melinda Wenner
Life Science
It's not hard to tell when a guy is "happy to see you."
The twinkle in his eye, his swagger, that sexy smile — all are clear
signs he's in the mood.
And, at least subconsciously, a woman can also tell by the scent of
his sweat, according to new research.
Scientists have long debated whether humans, like animals, use
chemical signals called pheromones to communicate sexual interest to
potential mates.
Problem is, the effects of pheromones are thought to be subconscious —
meaning that if we do communicate using them, we sure don't know it.
It's also hard to know what these pheromones might be and how we sense
them, so researchers understand little about them.
But if human pheromones are going to be anywhere, they're going to be
in sweat, right?
Denise Chen, a psychologist at Rice University in Houston, and her
colleagues devised an experiment to compare how women respond to
different forms of male sweat — sweat produced in everyday situations
versus that produced when a man is turned on.
The researchers speculated that if humans do produce and respond to
sweat pheromones, then a woman should respond to a guy's sexual sweat
differently than she does to his normal sweat.
Chen and her colleagues asked 20 heterosexual guys to stop wearing
deodorant and scented products for a few days.
Then they told the men to put small pads in their armpits as they
watched pornographic videos and became aroused. (The researchers
confirmed, using electrodes, that the images did the job.)
Later, the guys were asked to exchange those pads for fresh pads to
collect the sweat they produced when they weren't aroused.
Then the researchers recruited 19 brave women to smell the men's pads
while undergoing brain scans.
The investigators used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), a
technique that reveals the brain regions a person is using at any
given time — even if their brain activity is subconscious.
Sure enough, the women's brains responded very differently depending
on which sweat they sniffed. (And no, none of them passed out.)
The sexual sweat, but not the normal sweat, activated the right
orbitofrontal cortex and the right fusiform cortex, brain areas that
help us recognize emotions and perceive things, respectively.
Both regions are in the right hemisphere, which is generally involved
in smell, social response, and emotion.
The findings bolster the idea that humans do communicate via
subconscious chemical signals, notes Chen in her study, which was
published in the Dec. 31 issue of the Journal of Neuroscience.
Our sexual intentions, in other words, may be a lot clearer than we
ever intended them to be.
That crush you have on your co-worker? She may already know — at least
subconsciously.
***
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,479819,00.html
Manlaw: Why did they have 20 guys and only 19 women participate for this experiment? Anyways, as much as I would like to throw dirt on this experiment you can never underestimate the power of smell. I'm going to use some extra deodrant so that I'm not giving away my intentions too soon.
Life Science
It's not hard to tell when a guy is "happy to see you."
The twinkle in his eye, his swagger, that sexy smile — all are clear
signs he's in the mood.
And, at least subconsciously, a woman can also tell by the scent of
his sweat, according to new research.
Scientists have long debated whether humans, like animals, use
chemical signals called pheromones to communicate sexual interest to
potential mates.
Problem is, the effects of pheromones are thought to be subconscious —
meaning that if we do communicate using them, we sure don't know it.
It's also hard to know what these pheromones might be and how we sense
them, so researchers understand little about them.
But if human pheromones are going to be anywhere, they're going to be
in sweat, right?
Denise Chen, a psychologist at Rice University in Houston, and her
colleagues devised an experiment to compare how women respond to
different forms of male sweat — sweat produced in everyday situations
versus that produced when a man is turned on.
The researchers speculated that if humans do produce and respond to
sweat pheromones, then a woman should respond to a guy's sexual sweat
differently than she does to his normal sweat.
Chen and her colleagues asked 20 heterosexual guys to stop wearing
deodorant and scented products for a few days.
Then they told the men to put small pads in their armpits as they
watched pornographic videos and became aroused. (The researchers
confirmed, using electrodes, that the images did the job.)
Later, the guys were asked to exchange those pads for fresh pads to
collect the sweat they produced when they weren't aroused.
Then the researchers recruited 19 brave women to smell the men's pads
while undergoing brain scans.
The investigators used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), a
technique that reveals the brain regions a person is using at any
given time — even if their brain activity is subconscious.
Sure enough, the women's brains responded very differently depending
on which sweat they sniffed. (And no, none of them passed out.)
The sexual sweat, but not the normal sweat, activated the right
orbitofrontal cortex and the right fusiform cortex, brain areas that
help us recognize emotions and perceive things, respectively.
Both regions are in the right hemisphere, which is generally involved
in smell, social response, and emotion.
The findings bolster the idea that humans do communicate via
subconscious chemical signals, notes Chen in her study, which was
published in the Dec. 31 issue of the Journal of Neuroscience.
Our sexual intentions, in other words, may be a lot clearer than we
ever intended them to be.
That crush you have on your co-worker? She may already know — at least
subconsciously.
***
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,479819,00.html
Manlaw: Why did they have 20 guys and only 19 women participate for this experiment? Anyways, as much as I would like to throw dirt on this experiment you can never underestimate the power of smell. I'm going to use some extra deodrant so that I'm not giving away my intentions too soon.
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