The problem is...(as the video below will explain) there are too many black single women and not enough black single men. Steve Harvey gives his take in the video...and my thoughts are below the video.
1) This is going to be painful to hear. I don't believe everyone is meant to be married. There are some people based on their personality and their lifestyle that make them hard to be attached to someone.
2) This is also going to be painful to hear. Some people (men and women) have standards that are ridiculous. For example, if you are a woman that's like 5-3...demanding any dude you are interested in has to be 6-feet or over is ridiculous. Now, that was kind of an extreme example but there are people who have "this mythical" check list that need to take a lot of stuff on it...OFF!
3) Every black man and woman has to do their share of introducing a single black friend of the same sex to a single black friend of the opposite sex. No one is saying going into the matchmaking business (although that might be another solution) but don't pass up an opportunity to help a friend out...who you know deserves to be with someone that will love and appreciate them.
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I agree with you that there are some people who are not meant to be married. Women outlive men and should save accordingly! And yes, there are more women who are not meant for marriage than people realize - they don't know what compromise and selflessness is, two things that are essential to a long-lasting relationship.
@ACE...thanks for the comment..
I agree with some of your thoughts SP. My standards have not changed much, if anything they have risen as I rise as a human being, but my aesthetic deal breakers have fluctuated as I mature :)
@Ace's comment, the same about compromise and selflessness can be said about A LOT of men. It seems we both have experienced, witnessed, or heard about inconsiderateness in relationships. That is between those nasty people and their SO who put up with it.
I don't follow too many of these "Great WHOA unto the single black professional woman!" articles and commentaries. There are poignant facts, but some great generalizations as well. If anything it shows that there is a serious problem with the majority of black men in the US, if the sisters are able to keep it together, and progress spouseless from the socio-economic stand point. Instead of saying, oh these poor unmarried woman, what can we do to help or how do they need to change, ask what is wrong with your brothers, how can you encourage them to do better for themselves, families, community and society.
@LaPreghiera...you really think it is the brothers fault why there aren't more black marriages? I think it is actually the sisters fault and the word nobody likes to mention. Baggage. I've met way too many black women that carry so much emotional baggage from relationship to relationship.
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