The problem is...(as the video below will explain) there are too many black single women and not enough black single men. Steve Harvey gives his take in the video...and my thoughts are below the video.
1) This is going to be painful to hear. I don't believe everyone is meant to be married. There are some people based on their personality and their lifestyle that make them hard to be attached to someone.
2) This is also going to be painful to hear. Some people (men and women) have standards that are ridiculous. For example, if you are a woman that's like 5-3...demanding any dude you are interested in has to be 6-feet or over is ridiculous. Now, that was kind of an extreme example but there are people who have "this mythical" check list that need to take a lot of stuff on it...OFF!
3) Every black man and woman has to do their share of introducing a single black friend of the same sex to a single black friend of the opposite sex. No one is saying going into the matchmaking business (although that might be another solution) but don't pass up an opportunity to help a friend out...who you know deserves to be with someone that will love and appreciate them.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Where to meet womem
O.K. Fellas.
You're single (and don't want to be) and you're looking for a woman. I go out often in New Jersey and New York City and sometimes in Philadelphia and here is what I've observed. There are too many of our beautiful women who are single and in most cases don't want to be.
It might be our fault. It might even be her fault. It could be both of our faults.
Something has to give.
Now, I can't promise you that she'll be single or even a woman that you would want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I've listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance. You're welcome to agree or disagree with me.
1) Weddings
2) Broadway plays and musicals.
3) Concerts of any adult male singer.
4) Happy Hours/Afterwork events
5) Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners in the Philly but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
6) Library
7) Spoken Word events
8) Fundraisers for charities
9) Museums
10) Any department store that has a good female shoe section.
11) Bookstores
12) Community service events
12) Wine tastings
13) Political events
14) Birthday parties of your single female friends
You're single (and don't want to be) and you're looking for a woman. I go out often in New Jersey and New York City and sometimes in Philadelphia and here is what I've observed. There are too many of our beautiful women who are single and in most cases don't want to be.
It might be our fault. It might even be her fault. It could be both of our faults.
Something has to give.
Now, I can't promise you that she'll be single or even a woman that you would want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I've listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance. You're welcome to agree or disagree with me.
1) Weddings
2) Broadway plays and musicals.
3) Concerts of any adult male singer.
4) Happy Hours/Afterwork events
5) Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners in the Philly but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
6) Library
7) Spoken Word events
8) Fundraisers for charities
9) Museums
10) Any department store that has a good female shoe section.
11) Bookstores
12) Community service events
12) Wine tastings
13) Political events
14) Birthday parties of your single female friends
Wednesday, December 02, 2009
Where to Meet Men
O.K. Ladies.
You're single (and don't want to be). Don't shake your head...you know I'm talking the truth. Stop listening to your girlfriends and for once listen to a man that can tell you where to find men.
Now, I can't promise you that he'll be single or even a man that you want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance.
1) Happy Hours/After work events.
My professional male friends and I have made the transition to attending more happy hours and after work events than staying out late.The reason being...most of us have to go to work in the morning but we still want to socialize with the professional crowd. The drinks are cheap. The music is usually good. People tend to loosen up when alcohol is involved. Also, you'll more than likely catch him in his Sunday best...since he just got off of work, which theses days is a very good thing. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the bar or a television...and make sure to smile (I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH) at any guy you think is cute.
2) Library
Every woman should love an intelligent man and especially one that reads a lot or has an extensive vocabulary. A man that knows his way around the library should be a man that has the key to your heart. Women tend to read...a lot more...than men and it seems to me that women dominate every book club that I hear about. Wouldn't it be nice to find a man that reads as much as you do? And wouldn't it be nice to have a stimulating conversation with a man about the hottest books on the bestseller lists? I think it is time to update your library card and find a good seat near the entrance.
3) Ski Trips
A lot of men like sports. A lot of men go on ski trips. Now, before anyone jumps all over me...I know a lot of people don't actually ski on ski trips. It is about socializing and what better way to interact with men than in front of a fireplace on a cold winter day/night. Most ski trips usually involve a bus ride to and from the ski location and that's plenty of time to talk. If you see a cutie, sit near him on the bus ride and strike up a conversation. Don't wait too long though because women tend to outnumber guys on ski trips...so you want to get ahead of the competition...if you know what I mean.
4) Spoken Word Events
I don't know a woman that doesn't love a man who is a spoken word artist or a man that appreciates listening to good spoken word. It is such a relaxing activity and add in a glass of wine/or your favorite beverage and it is a can't miss type of evening. You're probably not going to find a lot of men at a spoken word event...so pay attention to any guy that does show up. If he has the courage to get on stage or pick up the microphone...then you should probably bump him up on your priority list. If he does perform, you'll get a chance to learn how his mind works (the clean and probably the dirty version). Women always want to know what men are thinking and he'll probably make that task easy for you. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the front or near the entrance...and if you are a spoken word artist yourself...get on stage and wet his appetite.
5) Sports Bars
This should be obvious. If you don't actually see a sporting event live, the next best thing is to go to a sports bar. And guess what you'll find there...Men...Men and more Men. Now, if you absolutely hate sports...then this isn't a place you should try. If you can at least tolerate sports (don't need to be an expert or anything) this might be a gold mine. Find a sports bar that has the NFL ticket in the Fall and visit on a Sunday afternoon or catch the Sunday Night Football game. If you can hang late on a Monday night...go for the Monday Night Football game. Later in the season, the NFL plays games on Thursday nights. Of course, there are the NFL playoffs and those games are always on Saturday evenings and Sunday afternoons. And of course there is always the Super Bowl. Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. Don't neglect the NCAA men's basketball tournament in March or the NBA playoffs in May and June or the MLB playoffs in late September and the month of October.
6) Super Bowl Parties
Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. It is the most watched sporting event in the world and guess what a lot of men will be watching the game and hopefully at the party that you are going to. Sit near the TV or near the alcohol table (men like to drink too) so you'll get a bird's eye-view of which guys might not be paying attention to every detail in the game and instead checking you out. At halftime, move closer to your target and strike up a conversation about a big play in the first half. At the end of the game, you both should have already exchanged information.
7) Weddings
I strongly suggest that women attend the weddings of single male friends because every man that is getting married wants his male friends to witness it. You might get stuck at the singles table at the wedding reception but you can always walk around and talk to anyone that is interesting. When the music comes on...get on the dance floor and show what you got. But of course, keep it classy and don't get drunk and start falling all over yourself. Keep it classy. Of course, if he has a wedding ring on...look but DON'T TOUCH. You don't want another black woman trying to cut you. lol.
Birthday parties of your single male friends
For pretty much the same reason listed above for weddings, birthday parties of single male friends is one of the highest concentration of places you'll find other single men. If there is a guy that you have your eye on...ask the host (your male friend) what's the deal with him. He might even put in a good word for you to his boy and let the matchmaking begin.
Other places you are likely to bump into some men via suggestions from female friends who have found mates by meeting them at the following places.
Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners that I know but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
Fundraisers for charities
Bookstores
Community service events
Political events
You're single (and don't want to be). Don't shake your head...you know I'm talking the truth. Stop listening to your girlfriends and for once listen to a man that can tell you where to find men.
Now, I can't promise you that he'll be single or even a man that you want to date...that's your homework assignment...should you choose to accept it.
I'll just point you in the right direction. I listed these as they came into my brain and not in order of importance.
1) Happy Hours/After work events.
My professional male friends and I have made the transition to attending more happy hours and after work events than staying out late.The reason being...most of us have to go to work in the morning but we still want to socialize with the professional crowd. The drinks are cheap. The music is usually good. People tend to loosen up when alcohol is involved. Also, you'll more than likely catch him in his Sunday best...since he just got off of work, which theses days is a very good thing. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the bar or a television...and make sure to smile (I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH) at any guy you think is cute.
2) Library
Every woman should love an intelligent man and especially one that reads a lot or has an extensive vocabulary. A man that knows his way around the library should be a man that has the key to your heart. Women tend to read...a lot more...than men and it seems to me that women dominate every book club that I hear about. Wouldn't it be nice to find a man that reads as much as you do? And wouldn't it be nice to have a stimulating conversation with a man about the hottest books on the bestseller lists? I think it is time to update your library card and find a good seat near the entrance.
3) Ski Trips
A lot of men like sports. A lot of men go on ski trips. Now, before anyone jumps all over me...I know a lot of people don't actually ski on ski trips. It is about socializing and what better way to interact with men than in front of a fireplace on a cold winter day/night. Most ski trips usually involve a bus ride to and from the ski location and that's plenty of time to talk. If you see a cutie, sit near him on the bus ride and strike up a conversation. Don't wait too long though because women tend to outnumber guys on ski trips...so you want to get ahead of the competition...if you know what I mean.
4) Spoken Word Events
I don't know a woman that doesn't love a man who is a spoken word artist or a man that appreciates listening to good spoken word. It is such a relaxing activity and add in a glass of wine/or your favorite beverage and it is a can't miss type of evening. You're probably not going to find a lot of men at a spoken word event...so pay attention to any guy that does show up. If he has the courage to get on stage or pick up the microphone...then you should probably bump him up on your priority list. If he does perform, you'll get a chance to learn how his mind works (the clean and probably the dirty version). Women always want to know what men are thinking and he'll probably make that task easy for you. Wear something cute...put on some of that good perfume (don't over do it)...sit near the front or near the entrance...and if you are a spoken word artist yourself...get on stage and wet his appetite.
5) Sports Bars
This should be obvious. If you don't actually see a sporting event live, the next best thing is to go to a sports bar. And guess what you'll find there...Men...Men and more Men. Now, if you absolutely hate sports...then this isn't a place you should try. If you can at least tolerate sports (don't need to be an expert or anything) this might be a gold mine. Find a sports bar that has the NFL ticket in the Fall and visit on a Sunday afternoon or catch the Sunday Night Football game. If you can hang late on a Monday night...go for the Monday Night Football game. Later in the season, the NFL plays games on Thursday nights. Of course, there are the NFL playoffs and those games are always on Saturday evenings and Sunday afternoons. And of course there is always the Super Bowl. Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. Don't neglect the NCAA men's basketball tournament in March or the NBA playoffs in May and June or the MLB playoffs in late September and the month of October.
6) Super Bowl Parties
Someone you know has to be throwing a Super Bowl party. It is the most watched sporting event in the world and guess what a lot of men will be watching the game and hopefully at the party that you are going to. Sit near the TV or near the alcohol table (men like to drink too) so you'll get a bird's eye-view of which guys might not be paying attention to every detail in the game and instead checking you out. At halftime, move closer to your target and strike up a conversation about a big play in the first half. At the end of the game, you both should have already exchanged information.
7) Weddings
I strongly suggest that women attend the weddings of single male friends because every man that is getting married wants his male friends to witness it. You might get stuck at the singles table at the wedding reception but you can always walk around and talk to anyone that is interesting. When the music comes on...get on the dance floor and show what you got. But of course, keep it classy and don't get drunk and start falling all over yourself. Keep it classy. Of course, if he has a wedding ring on...look but DON'T TOUCH. You don't want another black woman trying to cut you. lol.
Birthday parties of your single male friends
For pretty much the same reason listed above for weddings, birthday parties of single male friends is one of the highest concentration of places you'll find other single men. If there is a guy that you have your eye on...ask the host (your male friend) what's the deal with him. He might even put in a good word for you to his boy and let the matchmaking begin.
Other places you are likely to bump into some men via suggestions from female friends who have found mates by meeting them at the following places.
Home Depot/Lowes (this was strongly suggested by some single female homeowners that I know but I'm not officially buying it. lol)
Fundraisers for charities
Bookstores
Community service events
Political events
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