Off with her head...

Joking. Sort of. But she deserves a severe punishment for what you'll read below.

28-year-old pop princess, Nadja Banaissa (shown), a member of a German pop group called "No Angels" said in court in Germany that she was “sorry” for not telling her sexual partners that she was HIV positive, although she was aware of her status. Apparently, she had unprotected sex with several men.

According to the charge sheet, she had unprotected sex on five occasions between 2000 and 2004 with three men and did not tell them she was infected. At least one of the three men, has been infected with HIV supposedly from Banaissa, but it hasn't been determined if he contracted it from her.

HIV and AIDS are no laughing matter and should be treated as such.

There should be a federal law about anyone KNOWINGLY having HIV and AIDS and going around having unprotected sex with people. I say starting with 15 years to life sentence for the what should be a federal crime in the U.S. I believe a few states have individual laws regarding this but I think this is a national matter.

I know critics are going to say well it takes two people to have sex and if the other person who doesn't have HIV or AIDS didn't insist on using protection then that's playing Russian Roulette with your life...along with several other side arguments you can claim.

But someone going around having unprotected sex with the virus shouldn't be dismissed either. Once someone is found guilty of doing this...there should be a HIV/AIDS registry set up similar to a sex-offender registry. I sure the ACLU would probably fight this....amongst other civil rights groups...but this is a matter of national security and the fight against HIV and AIDS.

Questions from the Mailbag: Part 2

Question from Essence Cutie: Dear Man Law, I went through plenty of your blogs, and I didn't find this subject. Maybe I missed it. However, here it is. A lot of my friends are practicing celibacy in their relationships and they are happier than ever. I have strong feeling about it and it's worth considering. What are your views on this subject? How do your male friends feel about it. When is a good time to let him know, the beginning of the relationship or after a couple of dates?

Brother's Manlaw Response: Celibacy is not for every man or woman for that matter (AND IT CERTAINLY ISN'T FOR ME) and if I can speak for the majority of my male friends it isn't for them either. I might not want to have sex with you the first time I meet you but if there is a physical attraction and you have the personality to match the physical, I'm going to want to have sex with you at some point.

And if sex isn't on the table, it might be a deal breaker for me. I don't put a time frame on having sex with a woman and I can't stand women that have these silly 30, 60 or 90-day rules (yeah they read that silly chapter in Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A Lady: Think Like A Man") because you can't put a time frame on sex. It never works. You have to go with your instincts to know when the moment is right or not. If you continue to make bad decisions on who to have sex with, then maybe you need to stop having sex altogether. But that's another blog topic for another day.

Now, if you are a woman and you believe in celibacy and it is a deal breaker for you then I think it is fair topic for discussion on Date 3 or after. Now, one more important thing on the celibacy issue. If you are going to claim you are celibate...you must STICK TO WHAT YOU SAY and you can't tease a man or go anywhere close to crossing that line. Because if you do that...eventually you will cross that line and you'll have nobody to blame but yourself.

Questions from the mailbag: Part 1

Question from reader: I'm in a relationship with a "good" man but the sex is horrible! Should I continue to fake it? Am I at fault for my partner being a terrible lover? Is it true you are only as good as your lover?" Question via Anonymous.

Brother's Manlaw Response: Part 1 of answer: No. You shouldn't continue to fake it. The first and most important reason is that you are not getting satisfied and I'm afraid that is probably going to lead you to cheat if you haven't already. The second reason is he doesn't know that he isn't pleasing you and that isn't good for him either. I highly recommend you have a heart to heart with him and don't begin the conversation with the dreaded phrase "WE NEED TO TALK" because the majority of men shutdown emotionally when a woman says that. Right after the next time you have dinner you take him by the hand and lead him into the bedroom and you tell him...to just listen and watch you as you please yourself. Remember men are visual creatures. After a few minutes of this...you take his hands and guide them to your sweet spots. You whisper in his ear and tell him how much it turns you on that the man you care about caresses these sweet spots each time. Suggestion and Part 2 of answer: After one tutorial session where you lay your cards on the table so to speak, you watch to see what he does the next time you make love. If he really cares about you, he was paying attention and took mental notes of what you did and tries to repeat them the next time. If he forgets something just take his hand and guide them to the spot and if you think he needs vocal support...whisper it in his ear. Now, if he doesn't make any improvements over the course of the next 2-4 times you make love and you don't think he'll ever improve or he seems not to care about your feelings...you've got a big decision to make. Sex is usually a big part of a successful relationship to some people and if you are someone that believes that...you'll have to pick one or the other. If you think you are going to cheat, I would suggest you break up with him before you do cheat and search for someone that can satisfy you in the bedroom as well as satisfy you outside of it. Part 3 of the answer: You are not at fault for your partner being a terrible lover because some people are just selfish lovers, or they don't pay attention to what they are doing and how someone responds to them in bed. No, it isn't true that you are only as good as your lover.

Women Can Smell a Man's Sexual Intentions?

By Melinda Wenner
Life Science

It's not hard to tell when a guy is "happy to see you."

The twinkle in his eye, his swagger, that sexy smile — all are clear
signs he's in the mood.

And, at least subconsciously, a woman can also tell by the scent of
his sweat, according to new research.

Scientists have long debated whether humans, like animals, use
chemical signals called pheromones to communicate sexual interest to
potential mates.

Problem is, the effects of pheromones are thought to be subconscious —
meaning that if we do communicate using them, we sure don't know it.

It's also hard to know what these pheromones might be and how we sense
them, so researchers understand little about them.

But if human pheromones are going to be anywhere, they're going to be
in sweat, right?

Denise Chen, a psychologist at Rice University in Houston, and her
colleagues devised an experiment to compare how women respond to
different forms of male sweat — sweat produced in everyday situations
versus that produced when a man is turned on.

The researchers speculated that if humans do produce and respond to
sweat pheromones, then a woman should respond to a guy's sexual sweat
differently than she does to his normal sweat.

Chen and her colleagues asked 20 heterosexual guys to stop wearing
deodorant and scented products for a few days.

Then they told the men to put small pads in their armpits as they
watched pornographic videos and became aroused. (The researchers
confirmed, using electrodes, that the images did the job.)

Later, the guys were asked to exchange those pads for fresh pads to
collect the sweat they produced when they weren't aroused.

Then the researchers recruited 19 brave women to smell the men's pads
while undergoing brain scans.

The investigators used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), a
technique that reveals the brain regions a person is using at any
given time — even if their brain activity is subconscious.

Sure enough, the women's brains responded very differently depending
on which sweat they sniffed. (And no, none of them passed out.)

The sexual sweat, but not the normal sweat, activated the right
orbitofrontal cortex and the right fusiform cortex, brain areas that
help us recognize emotions and perceive things, respectively.

Both regions are in the right hemisphere, which is generally involved
in smell, social response, and emotion.

The findings bolster the idea that humans do communicate via
subconscious chemical signals, notes Chen in her study, which was
published in the Dec. 31 issue of the Journal of Neuroscience.

Our sexual intentions, in other words, may be a lot clearer than we
ever intended them to be.

That crush you have on your co-worker? She may already know — at least
subconsciously.
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http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,479819,00.html

Manlaw: Why did they have 20 guys and only 19 women participate for this experiment? Anyways, as much as I would like to throw dirt on this experiment you can never underestimate the power of smell. I'm going to use some extra deodrant so that I'm not giving away my intentions too soon.

Multiplication of the assets

According to this survey, almost one in three American men say that they had sex with at least 15 partners, while just one in 11 American women report similar behavior.

For those that don't like fractions, that's about 33 percent of men and about 9 percent of women agree on that aforementioned number of at least 15 partners.

Hmm.

Somebody is lying.

Guess who I'm going to point the finger at?

Manlaw: Since women underreport their number of sexual partners more so than men overreport their number of sexual partners, fellas always multiple her "number" by three to bring it up to average.

You have to remember that women don't include one-night stands, non-boyfriends or bad lovers in their totals. Women remember and admit to quality while men remember and admit to quantity.