MANLAW: The formation of the Ladies Point System
During the course of a man courting a woman, the man attempts to score "points" to earn certain privileges.
You get points for sending flowers.
You get points for sending just thinking about you cards.
You get many points for getting that right gift for her b-day.
You accumulate points by being a perfect gentlemen: opening doors for her, seating her first at the dinner table, taking her to the movies.
The like frequent flier miles you can cash in for certain benefits they can be other things besides sex since some of the readers here may assume that's the lone prize. Some other prizes, loyalty, a well-cooked meal, being decisive, rubbing my feet.
So today MANLAW will take effect. There will be new rules on this.
It's time for women to accumulate points.
MANLAW will dictate the point system if a woman wants a strong, black man, since you know statistically speaking they are a rare find. So the stakes should be higher for these dudes.
Here is the rationale behind this system.
Typically a guy gives the woman the benefit of the doubt. The woman starts with a grade of 100 and loses points if she does. A dude has to build up credit with the woman.
So Manlaw will reverse that and pronounce that women too must start at the bottom.
I will allow my fellow brothers to set up the point system.
18 comments:
OK, OK, OK - I feel what you guys are saying. I've never considered there's a point system for men, but maybe we women have subconsciously put one in place. Well, we want a worthy man just like you want a worthy woman, so I'm down for the point system. Lemme know what we gotta do to build up points with you guys . . . I'm listening.
I love it!
Personally, I'm on the "Fantastic Until Proven Trifling" system, so I'm willing to start you out at 100 points and deduct from there.
And as for how I tend to score, I'm usually in the high 90s. (I guess if I cooked more or gave pedicures or some ignorant shit, I'd get more points.)
But even in my relationships that ended in nuclear holocaust, I have still walked away with the high score.
I co-sign Hizzle's statment. I start you high and subtract from there...giving you the rope to hang yourself.
I'm not afraid of a challenge, so I don't mind working for what I get. But, see that puts me in between a rock and a hard place. I don't usually give up much (dinners, massages, etc) until I think the dude has earned or at least maintained a B+ average.
SO, what do I do?
What do you do, Dynasty? You do nothing. If those are your standards, that's cool. Flipside of the coin is don't expect anything until you've sufficiently proven you're worth the same B+ average you want a guy to work his way up to. You gotta give to get, but the point of SG's post is that these days many women want special treatment off top, but want men to earn it. Nothing from nothing leaves....
Head on the first date is an excellent point builder.
KZ
Con: Starting you at 100 means I think you have potential to be great. So, it's up to you to maintain, exceed or fail. Choose.
I also said that I'll allow a little error giving 85% as the minimum. After I see that you deserve my inital benefit of the doubt then you'll get the perks.
You know me, so why are you surprised? I'm complex! DAMMIT!
Con: Starting you at 100 means I think you have potential to be great. So, it's up to you to maintain, exceed or fail. Choose.
I also said that I'll allow a little error giving 85% as the minimum. After I see that you deserve my inital benefit of the doubt then you'll get the perks.
You know me, so why are you surprised? I'm complex! DAMMIT!
Dynasty
It depends on the point of view. Some women may in their mind give a score of 100 at the beginning, but the reality is the man has to make an uphill climb, especially at the beginning.
Whereas from the man's point of view, the only direction a woman can go is down.
How about you lose 100 points for thinking you deserve head!
Seriously, I feel that whole "start at 100 and work your way down."
But in a way, thinking a girl ain't shyt off rip is the best way to go about it.
With the expectations so low, everything she does well will shock you.
Yes Dynasty, you lose 100 points if you think you fuckin or gettin head on the first date....
Ok, thanks for this blog...I see now why he was being such a gentlemen, opening doors, pulling out chairs and such...
Now granted it should be done on dates, but we was just kicking it, going to the liquor store and he opening doors and such...and he already hit, got foot massages, head, cooked meals...so why is he still tryna accumulate points....
I love this blog already, thanks for putting me on Dynasty...
i'm not sure if i like a system where you get points for acting like you should....
seriously, why should you get points for just being a decent human being? that's like me applauding you for raising your kids.
case in point: if i'm sick and you bring me chicken soup, why should you get points for that? you're just being decent.
now, a REAL points system rewards for shit above the call of duty. sorry, but opening a door doesn't fit that category.
points should be awarded for...
- paying a bill. shit, it could be internet, phone, etc. pay any bill for one month and ...well, i can't say it here.
- a terrific meal that's over, say, $100. again, shit you don't have to do, but is above and beyond.
- whisking your lady away for the weekend. two words: porn sex.
sorry, guys, getting the right b-day gift and a flower or two doesn't cut it. if you want to jump to being a gold member real quick, you got to do gold member shit.
of course, this works in the reverse.
J
There are good men (career driven, yet a gentlemen in the pure sense) who are actually going above the call of duty and for some strange reason are still not treated justly.
Now you could have a point system for going above and beyond what is supposed to be done.
But you know the scoring system is done differently by women.
Even if a dude does some extrordinary thing you may act out to him like he got 50 points but in your subconscious well he will get 10.
The good men can set the same scoring philosophy. We should and apply the same standards.
I am not trying to go there because I don't use this against the ladies, statistics show the lack of good men. So the good men can and deserve to raise the point level just as a woman when her standards are just as high.
Now there are men who take advantage of the statistics and play around in the field.
But as I am often told by women when you have a bad experience with a woman never take it out on the next. I will say the same thing about women, never take it out on the next guy.
And how you take it out on the next guy is by imposing a higher and unattainable mental point system.
MANLAW: POINT SYSTEM
LOL!
I actually do not fit into this conversation, being that ... well nevermind!
But I feel what M-Dubb said, low expectations seem to be the way to go these days.
this is comedy...but thought-provoking too
i did a mock point system.
check it out:
grownpeople.blogspot.com
im WITH it...so everybody male nad female should start @ 100.....but what if that person reaches 50 but they really are a good person they just got issues...and u like them?
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