Buy you a drink?

When did it become proper for a woman to ask a guy she doesn't know to buy her a drink?

Or worst...when did it become proper for a woman to demand a guy she doesn't know to buy her a drink?

Or even worst than both of those...when did it become proper for a woman you don't know to ask or demand you buy her and her girlfriend(s) drinks?

Are we to blame T-Pain for this because of his popular (but when you read the lyrics word for word...extremely silly) song "Buy You A Drink?

Or have women in general lost their damn minds?

I don't know where to point the blame. But there is one thing I know for certain. This epidemic isn't cute and it is something that needs to stop. If you as a woman are that darn thirsty, BUY YOURSELF A DRINK.

I was having this discussion with a male friend about our recent vacations and it happened to him while he was on vacation.

To paraphrase his response.

He said if he just met a woman at a club/bar/lounge or entertainment establishment and he's only been talking to a woman for five minutes, she shouldn't ask him to buy her a drink because he's going to say hell no. It doesn't matter how hot a woman looks. If he wants to buy her a drink, he'll offer and pay. No need to ask and damn sure no need to demand.

And if a woman is bold enough to ask/demand, his response is "I was just about to ask you (as a woman) to buy me a drink." That as he tells me, always ends the conversation for good. lol. I need to borrow that at some point in the future.

I couldn't agree with his policy more. But I have a variation to it.

Now, I'm a fairly generous person when it comes to being social. My number one reason for being in a club/bar/lounge or entertainment venue is to dance. I'm not a drinker. I don't profile. I'm there to break out a sweat on the dance floor. If a woman that I don't know dances with me for a while and I'm enjoying her company, it is my good nature to offer to buy her a drink.

Generally speaking, you have to engage me in something meaningful (a dance or a great conversation on something not superficial) to get a drink out of me, if I don't know you. Which begs me to ask another question, when did women lose the art of socializing? Just looking cute and sitting/standing around ISN'T enough and whoever told you it was should be forced to listen to Ashanti sing live for 24 hours straight.

So, ladies spread the word and make sure your girlfriends "don't ask and darn sure don't tell" any man to buy her a drink. Because more than likely if you do that, you'll probably end up with a dude that thinks he owns you after one drink.

The reasons she's not the one

• She snores. During the night, she bellows out a loud-pitch, glass-shattering snore that makes it impossible for you to sleep for one second. SHE'S NOT THE ONE.

• She admits she takes bad care of her car: Women treat just about all their material possessions with care. So, if you find a woman that claims she doesn't take care of a car she depends on everyday. SHE'S NOT THE ONE

• She's late for everything. It doesn't matter the event (movies, dinner, concert, banquet, picking you up from the train station, etc..) she's going to be late and fashionably late at that. When she says 10 minutes, she really means 20. SHE'S NOT THE ONE.

• She calls one of her male friends "her husband." If this doesn't have red flag written all over it...I don't know what else would. If you haven't hit it yet and she's throwing nicknames around like "my husband" to describe one of her male "friends," you are probably never going to hit it and should move on. She's keeping you on the bench for a reason. SHE'S NOT THE ONE.

• She takes forever to comply with a simple request from you. If a woman cares about you, then she will not take forever to return a phone call, a text message or an e-mail with a request from you...whether it be urgent or not. SHE'S NOT THE ONE.
  

• She doesn't offer you a drink or any food when you come to visit. You're visiting her place for the first time and she doesn't offer to feed you or give you something to drink. Meanwhile, she gets herself something to drink (a Heineken for that matter) and sits back on the couch like nothing is wrong with that picture. Now, the only exception to this scenario is if the visit leads to sex. SHE'S NOT THE ONE.