Off with her head...

Joking. Sort of. But she deserves a severe punishment for what you'll read below.

28-year-old pop princess, Nadja Banaissa (shown), a member of a German pop group called "No Angels" said in court in Germany that she was “sorry” for not telling her sexual partners that she was HIV positive, although she was aware of her status. Apparently, she had unprotected sex with several men.

According to the charge sheet, she had unprotected sex on five occasions between 2000 and 2004 with three men and did not tell them she was infected. At least one of the three men, has been infected with HIV supposedly from Banaissa, but it hasn't been determined if he contracted it from her.

HIV and AIDS are no laughing matter and should be treated as such.

There should be a federal law about anyone KNOWINGLY having HIV and AIDS and going around having unprotected sex with people. I say starting with 15 years to life sentence for the what should be a federal crime in the U.S. I believe a few states have individual laws regarding this but I think this is a national matter.

I know critics are going to say well it takes two people to have sex and if the other person who doesn't have HIV or AIDS didn't insist on using protection then that's playing Russian Roulette with your life...along with several other side arguments you can claim.

But someone going around having unprotected sex with the virus shouldn't be dismissed either. Once someone is found guilty of doing this...there should be a HIV/AIDS registry set up similar to a sex-offender registry. I sure the ACLU would probably fight this....amongst other civil rights groups...but this is a matter of national security and the fight against HIV and AIDS.

Questions from the mailbag: Part 3

Question from Dark & Lovely: Is there ever a time when a man should be expected to marry a woman?

Brother's Manlaw response: There is no official time table on it. Personally, I think after 2 years of dating, a man should know if he wants to marry a woman. Does that mean he will marry her before or after 2 years? No. But that's where the woman needs to stand up for herself and ask what does she want. If she's put in at least 2 good years and is in the safe child bearing age and wants kids and he isn't showing any signs of movement...she might want to consider dating other people. Men can be the biggest bullshitters on the planet and we'll have a woman on the hook for years or even decades if she lets us.

Letter To Black Women

Dear Black Women,

Let me start of by saying this to you all: I love you and have so much respect for you all. I really do. The burdens you all carry are so great.  You are definitely appreciated.

However, I have not been feeling the love from some of you. Lately, there seems to be a small, yet powerful and growing, movement of Black women who seem to hate/dislike or are disappointed in Black men. I have read so many articles,blogs and news reports about Black women saying Black men ain't sh*t/wont settle etc, Black men only like White women, Black men are less successful than Black women. It saddens me to see some of you say this. I feel the need to clarify and inform since many of these statements and feeling are inaccurate.

First, I will tackle the whole dating thing. I am hearing a lot from some Black women that "Men ain't sh*t" and all other variants of that. I feel that many of these women need to look in the mirror. One, quit trying to make someone into what you want instead of accepting them for who they are. Too many times we try to mold someone. It is not going to happen. Men give clear signals when they are not happy or don't want to commit. Pay attention, assess, then move on.. Secondly, that man might be a good man, just not the one for you. Incompatibility does not make someone a bad person, just a bad partner. Thirdly, many times we don't take the time to reflect on the damage we done. Many of the women who spew negativity need to take stock of the damage they have done; do some critical self-reflection. Take responsibility for the role you have play in the demise of your relationship.

The second issue I need to tackle is interracial dating. Black men are not "betraying" their race or Black women by dating outside their race. Black men do not "hate" Black women because they date outside their race. Let me tell you why some Black men date outside their race: numbers. Dating only Black women limits the pool. Expanding your pool to include women of other races expands the potential pool of mates. Quit reading your magazines, chatting with your girlfriends. They have the game all messed up. Black men love Black women. We really do. Dating outside the race does not mean we don't love you. We will still love and support Black women in any endeavors even if we date outside the race. Are some brothers self-loathers? Yes, but they are so few. It is not an epidemic of Black men who hate Black women. That is soooooooo wrong. So when you see a Black dude down the street with a woman of another color, don't hate. Be happy that he hopefully found someone and is able to create a happy and healthy relationship. Also, it takes more energy to be upset at that man than it is to find the right one for you.

Overall, I just want you all to know that I am worried. The movement of haters among Black women is growing. And if we hope to improve the condition of Black America, I need Black women to support the brothers. I need brothers to do the same.

Sincerely,

Epsilonicus