He Shoots, He Scores

I never thought anyone could give the Shawn Kemp's (seven kids by six women) or the Travis Henry's (11 kids by 10 women) a run for their money but I've got a name for you.

Desmond Hatchet

He's 29 and get this (insert drum roll music)...he's got 21 kids by 11 women. Mr. Hatchet you sir are a winner. Of course, I'm being facetious.

Yes. He's got Kemp beat by 2 touchdowns and he's got Henry, a football player for that matter, beat by a touchdown and a field goal. And here's the kicker: he's got a minimum wage job (which wasn't identified in the clip). So, if you are a resident of the state of Tennessee, you should be angry because you are paying for all those "x" and "y" chromosomes

I understand everyone has civil rights and the government shouldn't be telling people how many kids they can have BUT...Mr. Hatchet's case is utterly ridiculous. According to the clip, the state of Tennessee can only take half of his wages but considering he's on minimum wage that can't be a lot. And when you start dividing that 21 ways...we are probably talking a few dollars and even a fewer cents.

Obviously, Hatchet deserves every ounce of blame thrown his way but wait a minute, the women in this case are not angels and obviously they are not too bright either. It is not like he's worth millions and we can clearly see you are just after a piece of his money. That I can begrudgingly accept...I'm going to still call you trifling but we at least know you had a plan.

A friend had the best Facebook status to describe how I feel about the women: "Clearly Mr. "I'm 29 and I have 20-21 kids" is pitiful. But what's the adjective for baby momma #3-#11? Ignorance is bliss and it will also get you $1.89 in child support."

I laughed when I read the status message but clearly this isn't funny and baby momma No. 3 to No. 11 have some explaining to do. I can only imagine what they said to their parents. "Hey....mom and dad. I've got a surprise for you. I'm having a baby with Desmond. Yeah. He's got...um....I'm not sure how many kids he's got really."

Well, baby momma "No. 3 to No. 11" you should checked how many kids he had. You also should have done some research (based on the state you live in) on the child support laws. Most importantly, you should have made him wear a condom. Because clearly, you are not ready to be a mother if you are depending on a man with a minimum wage job and an exponential amount of illegitimate kids to support you. I thought people took STDs, STIs, HIV and AIDS seriously but we've found one extreme example of adults who don't get it.

Let's be real. This guy's game can't be that good that he convinced 11 women to let him go raw. It may be true but I just can't buy it. I also can't believe that there were nine women that just wanted to add onto this family tree. That may be true too but I just can't buy it.

Manlaw and womanlaw: This will probably never happen (because of civil rights laws) but the state of Tennessee needs to make an example of Mr. Hatchet and his bevy of women. The state shouldn't support any more kids that he has. Period. Not one penny. Also, the state should change the laws to go after 75 percent of his check or change the law that says after a certain amount of kids the percentage the state takes goes up. I'm not sure how you punish the women but I think if you start educating young women about the child support laws that might be a start. The basic premise should be this: the more kids a man has the less in child support you are going to get. So, it probably isn't wise to be baby momma No. 3 to No. 11. Let me backtrack again, maybe the state of Tennessee needs to get tough and start pushing vasectomies and tubal ligations. At least, these careless individuals can screw up their own lives and not bring innocent children into the world. Maybe even create a baby daddy or baby momma registry.

Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man Discussion (Part 2)

I want to say thank you to the 165 people that tuned into the live chat on Easter Sunday. I'm not sure if all the chatters were women but I suspect a very good portion were that night. Thank you for the support.

I hope you enjoyed the comments from my man Keith and I about the topics that Steve Harvey mentioned in his book. Someone asked when are we going to do a chat like this again and the honest answer is, I don't know.

If someone wants our thoughts (the male perspective...that is) on a specific topic about dating e-mail us at brothersmanlaw@yahoo.com and I'll see if I can't turn it into a blog entry or another chat.

Once again thanks for making the 4 hour and 47 minute chat (I was only planning on 2 hours max...lol) a total success.

Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man Discussion...

Please come back on Sunday, April 12 at 7 p.m. as I'll host an online discussion about Steve Harvey's book "Act Like a Lady: Think Like a Man."

I agreed with about 65 percent of what Steve Harvey said. The book is hilarious and even if you think Steve Harvey is full of himself...the book is worth a look. On Sunday evening, I'm going to give the non-celebrity man's point-of-view of what Steve Havey was saying.

See you then.

Lets Talk

From MSNBC.com

By Associated Press:

Police in Connecticut say a woman attempting to reconcile with her husband handcuffed herself to him as he slept and then bit him on his torso and arms.

Police say 37-year-old Helen Sun told them she wanted to have a conversation with husband Robert Drawbough without him leaving. Police say she changed the locks on their bedroom and handcuffed herself to Drawbough while he was sleeping Monday.

Drawbough used a cell phone to call police. Officers heard his screams when they arrived at the couple's Fairfield home. He was treated at a local hospital.

Police charged Sun with third-degree assault, disorderly conduct, reckless endangerment and unlawful restraint. She was due in Bridgeport Superior Court on Tuesday.

Manlaw: Only allow her to handcuff you if it comes with a "happy ending"

Please Allow Me To Introduce Myself

Name: Epsilonicus

Age: 22

Nationality: Black American

Status: In A Relationship

Location: East Coast, USA

Important Information: The leader of the Man-Law Revival Movement. This movement feels that the metrosexualization of men has caused many of them to forget the laws that men hold dear and sacred. This movement works to keep man-law alive. These rules have helped many men throughout the millenia.

Epsilonicus, although in a relationship, does offer wingman services. If you need these services, you know where to find him.

He mentors young men in the ways getting a date and keeping a woman. This service is provided mostly to college age men but can be offered more widely since it is definitely needed.

He is now a contributing writer to the Brother's ManLaw blog. He hopes that all the readers enjoy his tenure as a contributing writer.

Public Service Annoucement for the Ladies

-Written By A Woman

Honestly, I’m tired of hearing chicks say, “Men ain’t ish.” While this may be true some of the time, have you ever stopped to think that maybe it’s something that you’re doing that is making men not want to stop and talk to you? You could just be unapproachable and that is why you can’t find a decent man. Maybe it’s something beyond your control, but then again maybe it’s not. Try to check the following:


Your Expressions:

Body language can tell a lot about a person like whether they’re mad or happy, or if they’re too busy to be bothered. You cannot go out somewhere and expect to meet men if you’re going to sit in the same spot all night with your arms folded across your chest. Men feed off your energy so if you want to meet someone you will have to be aware of your body language at all times. You don’t want the same ugly no good men walking up to you asking, “Why you looking so mean?” You know they’re bold and don’t care. Keep a pleasant look on your face and uncross your arms. This is an invite to let men into your space.

Your Appearance:

So you’re really walking out the house with curlers in your hair and your toes hanging over your flip flops? This is a no-no if you’re trying to catch a positive eye. Mr. Right could be out there but he’s going to look right over you and put you in the “hell no” category. If you have on sandals, make sure they are the right size and your toes are done. And if you have to keep your hair tied up, try to at least do it stylishly with a silky scarf…think Alicia Keys “Unbreakable” video. A good man wants his lady to look nice when she steps out.

Who you’re with:

“You’re only as good as the company you keep.” So why are choosing the loudest friends you have to go party with? You know the ones that dance on top of the bar and grab guys to get their attention and to buy them drinks. Sure, you all have a good time when you’re out. But save them for ladies nights when you aren’t thinking about men. If he see’s you with them, more than likely, he will think you act just like them and will ignore any eye contact you give him.

Manlaw: Already explained in the first paragraph by the female ghost writer.

They've got the pill for you in Sweden and Finland

if you have premature ejaculation problems. Not something that I need help with but for those of you suffering from this problem you might want to read the story below and then my comments afterwards.

J&J Ejaculation Pill, World’s First, Wins Approvals (Update2)

By Alex Nussbaum
Feb. 10 (Bloomberg) -- Johnson & Johnson won approval in Sweden and Finland for the first prescription pill to treat premature ejaculation, three years after U.S. regulators rejected the drug, the company said.
The drugmaker expects to win clearance for dapoxetine, to be sold as Priligy, in five more European nations and has applied for approval in Canada, Australia, Mexico, Turkey and six other countries, said Greg Panico, a spokesman for New Brunswick, New Jersey-based J&J, today in a telephone interview. The pill, taken a few hours before intercourse, should be in European drugstores by April, he said.
“There’s a globally significant market” for premature ejaculation treatments, Panico said. He declined to estimate sales.
Dapoxetine may generate $575 million a year by 2011 for the company, said Michael Weinstein, a JPMorgan Chase & Co. analyst in New York, in an Oct. 29 note to clients. It’s one of several drugs J&J is developing to replace revenue it expects to lose to generic competition to top-selling medications such as the antipsychotic Risperdal, he said.
Johnson & Johnson fell $1.77, or 3 percent, to $56.73 in New York Stock Exchange composite trading at 4 p.m.. The company has lost 8.5 percent over 12 months.
Potential Patients
From 4 percent to 30 percent of men worldwide suffer premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, Panico said. Estimates vary because some men are embarrassed to admit the condition, he said. J&J defined the condition as ejaculation within a minute of penetration. The Merck Manual of Medical Information defines it as ejaculation sooner than men or their partners would like.
The U.S. Food and Drug Administration turned down J&J’s application to sell dapoxetine in 2006 without explanation. Panico wouldn’t discuss the FDA rejection. He said J&J was “keeping its options open” to resubmit the pill in the U.S.
Dapoxetine neutralizes a chemical messenger in the brain called serotonin, the neurotransmitter also affected by antidepressants such as Eli Lilly & Co.'s Prozac. The antidepressants also may be prescribed to treat premature ejaculation, according to the National Institutes of Health.
The serotonin-targeting drugs have been subject of thousands of lawsuits against companies including Pfizer Inc., GlaxoSmithKline Plc.and Merck & Co.by patients who say the medicines increased the risk of suicide.
Five clinical trials involving 6,000 men using dapoxetine found no evidence suicide or suicidal thoughts increased, Panico said. J&J’s drug is taken as needed, so it should pose fewer potential dangers than antidepressants taken regularly, he said.
The drug was originally developed by Lilly as a potential antidepressant and licensed to J&J, Panico said. The company is also awaiting decisions on approval in Austria, Germany, Spain, Italy and Portugal, said a statement morning by Janssen-Cilag EMEA, the J&J unit marketing the drug.

Manlaw: First, Viagra and now this. What will they think of next? The sound you hear is about 1.5 million women clapping hard and asking when they can get their hands on this pill for the men in their lives. It is probably one of the most embarrassing things in a man's life to "come" too early and probably one of the most frustrating things in a woman's life to have to deal with a guy that does this often. I can see some very bold women ordering this pill in bulk and keeping it in the medicine cabinet, just in case. You have to figure good men are hard to find and good men that make women "come" like a river are even more rare. Now, does anyone see it as being hypocritical to approve Viagra but not approve a pill like this?

A baby daddy for every day of the week?

We often throw the book at musicians, actors, athletes...etc... (basically men that are blessed with an insane amounts of money) when they go populating the world with children through their various baby mommas.

We quote scripture (chapter and verse) of how these men have no morals.

But rarely, if ever, do we take aim at women who are just as guilty, if not worse, than the same men we ridiculed on the gossips pages of tabloids and on the various celebrity gossip blogs.

It is a double standard that must change. If we're going to convict men in the court of public opinion for not "wrapping it up" then these same women must all serve the time for the same crime.

I mean...seriously....how many baby daddies do you really need Sinead O'Connor? Christie Brinkley? Faith Evans? Erykah Badu? Just to name a few.

Sinead O’Connor is pregnant with her FOURTH baby. She is due Christmas Eve. The baby daddy is her partner Frank Bonadio. Her other children are Jake, 18, with first husband, drummer John Reynolds; Roisin, 10, with Irish Times columnist John Waters; and two-year- old Shane, with musician Donal Lunny.

Christie Brinkley: Married FOUR times, THREE kids, THREE baby daddies. 1) Alexa Ray Joel, (born December 29, 1985), with Billy Joel. The name "Ray" was given to Alexa in honour to Ray Charles. 2) Jack Paris Taubman, (born June 2, 1995), with Richard Taubman. He was later adopted by Peter Cook and named Jack Paris Brinkley Cook. 3) Sailor Lee Brinkley Cook (born July 2, 1998), with Peter Cook.

Faith Evans: FOURTH Kids, THREE Baby Daddies: At 18, Evans won a scholarship to Fordham University in New York City to major in marketing. After a year, she left because she had a daughter, Chyna Griffin, with music producer Kiyamma Griffin. Evans married The Notorious B.I.G. nine days after meeting at a photoshoot. The marriage was turbulent as B.I.G. reportedly had affairs with Lil Kim and Charli Baltimore. But the two did reunite and their son Christopher Wallace, Jr. was born on October 29, 1996. In late 1997 Evans became pregnant by Todd Russaw. Her son Joshua was born later that year and the two married in summer 1998. In 2008 they had son Ryder Evan Russaw.

Erykah Badu: THREE KIDS, THREE baby daddies. Badu has a son named Seven Sirius born in 1997 with ex-partner André 3000 of OutKast. On July 5, 2004, Badu gave birth to a daughter, Puma Rose Sabti, in her Dallas home; Puma's father is West Coast rapper The D.O.C. who is originally from Dallas, Texas. She also dated rapper Common from 2000 to 2002. On February 1, 2009 Badu gave birth to her third child at home, a girl named Mars Merkaba, with her boyfriend of four years, rapper Jay Electronica.

Manlaw: I think it is time we start playing that clip from Madea's Family Reunion to our sons. The clip where Madea's loud-mouth brother, Joe, warns Boris Kodjoe's character that Vanessa is FERTILE because she's a single mother with two kids. Now, the movie scene, although a bit harsh, does have a point. Do you really want to be the third (or fourth or fifth) baby daddy? I think not. Back in the day, people were ashamed to be having a kid out of wedlock, now it is commonplace. And someone needs to have a SERIOUS chat with Erykah. Seven, Puma and Mars as baby names? GTFOHWTBS.

Women Can Smell a Man's Sexual Intentions?

By Melinda Wenner
Life Science

It's not hard to tell when a guy is "happy to see you."

The twinkle in his eye, his swagger, that sexy smile — all are clear
signs he's in the mood.

And, at least subconsciously, a woman can also tell by the scent of
his sweat, according to new research.

Scientists have long debated whether humans, like animals, use
chemical signals called pheromones to communicate sexual interest to
potential mates.

Problem is, the effects of pheromones are thought to be subconscious —
meaning that if we do communicate using them, we sure don't know it.

It's also hard to know what these pheromones might be and how we sense
them, so researchers understand little about them.

But if human pheromones are going to be anywhere, they're going to be
in sweat, right?

Denise Chen, a psychologist at Rice University in Houston, and her
colleagues devised an experiment to compare how women respond to
different forms of male sweat — sweat produced in everyday situations
versus that produced when a man is turned on.

The researchers speculated that if humans do produce and respond to
sweat pheromones, then a woman should respond to a guy's sexual sweat
differently than she does to his normal sweat.

Chen and her colleagues asked 20 heterosexual guys to stop wearing
deodorant and scented products for a few days.

Then they told the men to put small pads in their armpits as they
watched pornographic videos and became aroused. (The researchers
confirmed, using electrodes, that the images did the job.)

Later, the guys were asked to exchange those pads for fresh pads to
collect the sweat they produced when they weren't aroused.

Then the researchers recruited 19 brave women to smell the men's pads
while undergoing brain scans.

The investigators used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), a
technique that reveals the brain regions a person is using at any
given time — even if their brain activity is subconscious.

Sure enough, the women's brains responded very differently depending
on which sweat they sniffed. (And no, none of them passed out.)

The sexual sweat, but not the normal sweat, activated the right
orbitofrontal cortex and the right fusiform cortex, brain areas that
help us recognize emotions and perceive things, respectively.

Both regions are in the right hemisphere, which is generally involved
in smell, social response, and emotion.

The findings bolster the idea that humans do communicate via
subconscious chemical signals, notes Chen in her study, which was
published in the Dec. 31 issue of the Journal of Neuroscience.

Our sexual intentions, in other words, may be a lot clearer than we
ever intended them to be.

That crush you have on your co-worker? She may already know — at least
subconsciously.
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http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,479819,00.html

Manlaw: Why did they have 20 guys and only 19 women participate for this experiment? Anyways, as much as I would like to throw dirt on this experiment you can never underestimate the power of smell. I'm going to use some extra deodrant so that I'm not giving away my intentions too soon.

New Dating philosophy?

I saw the following passage about a guy posted on a message board. Funny story and a lesson for the ladies out there.

-- MY DATE LAST NIGHT ---

When I did my taxes this year I found out that I spent over $14,000 on Dates last year. Most of that was spent on dinner and drinks in Manhattan. Now don't get me wrong, I had some very good times, some great sex, some good conversations. Hell, I even made a good friend along the way, but mainly I came away from the date feeling extremely disappointed and with a lighter wallet. Date by date it's not THAT much money but it all adds up fast!

In the past I had a habit of always grabbing the check and paying whether my date was hot or not. Whether we clicked or not. Basically I felt ashamed to let her pay. I also kept and interesting statistic and ev en I was surprised that only 5% of my dates even offered to pay - yes you see that right- 5%! One girl in the entire year offered to pay for the entire check. A very nice gesture. But of course I paid and doubt she was sincere. In light of all this evidence I knew I had to change some things. So, this year.....

I DECIDED TO NEVER PAY FOR A FIRST DATE AGAIN. How did I do this? First adopted the mindset that a girl should naturally assume she's paying for herself. Now this wasn't easy at first but I quickly got used to it. Then when going into the bar/restaurant/lounge etc. I would hand the server a credit card and ask them to open tabs for us. HEY!-Did you catch that? I said 'TABS.' Yah, don't worry at least 95% of the girls I meet miss that one too. Just to make sure I usually confirm that the server has understood me too. I do this when the date rudely answers her cell phone or is in the bathroom (probably using her cell phone). Guys, you know the Mastercard "priceless" serie s of commercials? Well, let me tell you, you won't understand the meaning of 'priceless' until you see one of these girls handed their own check for 3 20$ martinis and overpriced food (that they would probably never buy on their own). It's also very relaxing to encourage the girl to eat and drink up because even at 20$ a pop for exotic gooey blender drinks I could care less how many of them she has - cause SHE'S PAYING.

Oddly enough when she realizes that there are individual bills there will a few prolonged moments of discomfort. But don't panic. Something that took me by surprise is how many girls suddenly have to 'go to an ATM'. I can't quite figure out if it's because their cc's are maxed out on shoe purchases or that they are trying to guilt me into paying. Well, probably a combination of both, but I'm remorseless after doing this for nearly 3 months now. Which brings me to my date last night...... omg.....

Of course the classy nice Irish pub I suggested w asn't good enough for her. Nah...she needed to go somewhere more trendy. Ok, no problem. W? Hudson? Meatpacking Dist? SoHo? Where we going? So she picks a midtown hotel bar. Nice place. Little stuffy. Drinks, not bad and Macadamia nuts on the lounge tables (complimentary) nice! Of course I went thru my usual routine, handed the server a credit card asked her if we can start tabs she said, 'sure' and took the card. 1 drink in her cell phone rang. She apologized, (she had to get it). So I moved into confirmation mode. Our waitress even missed the 'tabs' part but she adjusted on the fly and told me no problem. Boy, let me tell you - the girl i was with could really throw down the drinks. She was drinking scotch that was older than the hotel we were in. Of course I encouraged her the whole way. She was like, wow they have Johnny Walker BLUE label! I was like, 'you ever try it?' She's like....'Nooooooo!!!' I'm like, 'go on....just get some'. She's like 'are you sure'. I'm like, 'look, if you want it, just get it!' So she ordered one, then another, and finally one more..... wow she was probably more than a little drunk. I stuck to my Stoli and a splash of Cran.

When the BILL(S) came she sobered up fast. I caught a glimpse of hers, 5 drinks plus a little finger food $319.00 I think it was. She looked shocked and sick to her stomach when she saw 2 bills. Guess she thought I was buying. Think again. (The old me woulda soaked up the bill but steered her away from the Blue) I had 4 drinks, no food and a great buzz. Pricey Stoli, but overall still a good value (i ate a ton of free macadamias and almond ds) $36.00. Damn I thought, that BLUE label will get you every time. Of course she did more than the traditional fumble through her purse. Her face was beat red and she was speechless. She left the bill on the table and excused herself for the restroom. I had already paid and was sucking on some ice. The waitress was looking concerned. I told her, 'look'. Sure enough my date was heading out toward the front door. I slowly grabbed my coat as the waitress ran after her. Then security or a bellman grabbed her at the door and a small shouting match ensued. Can you imagine, she was trying to leave - without paying!

Well, I didn't stick around to see what happened. All I saw was the poor waitress standing just inside the front door with a small coctail tray. she did look concerned but not panicked. A doorman and bell hop had the girl by the arm, outside and was semi-forcing her back inside, she wasn't getting away from this bill. I paid my bill. I had my receipt. But I couldn' t help wondering why she ordered 3 Johnny Walker Blues, doesn't she know that shit is expensive? Then I wondered if they had to arrest her while I had another drink at my local Irish pub.

I haven't heard from her again. Too bad, she was pretty cute too...


Hence the manlaw: The ladies will get mad because it was a situation where a woman tried to get over on a guy and got PLAYED herself. The telling sign was the walk or sprint of shame to the door, when she she knew damn well she didn't have any cash or the means to pay for the outrageous stuff SHE ordered.

Who the fawk goes out (male or female) and doesn't have ANY MONEY or at least a credit card on them in case of emergency? And if you know you don't have any loot, why are you ordering enough grub and drank to feed an army? That's a terrible upbringing if she was told that a child and even worst if this was reinforced as a young adult.

It tells me she wasn't interested in getting to know the guy, or anyone for that matter, at all...it was all about her "getting something" out of it. What if he walked out on her and left her sitting at the table? What would she have done then? Has dating really deteriorated to this? Do women really calculate in their mind "how much they can squeeze out of a guy on a date?" This gimme mentality has to go...in 2009.

Bottom line.

1) You never assume anything.
2) You always let someone order for themselves.
3) If you don't have MONEY and this goes to ladies too...stay home. Or if you really want to go out, state that you have no money before we agree on plans.

Personally, there wouldn't have been a date if she tried to run this scam on me. The second she mentioned something that was 180 degrees different than what I suggested, it would have been a wrap for me.

Till Adultery Do Us Part?

Suspended sentence for thespian Korean adulteress Ok So-Ri

Article from: Agence France-Presse
A LEADING South Korean actress who unsuccessfully challenged a national law which criminalises adultery has been given a suspended jail sentence for her extra-marital affair.

Ok So-Ri, 40, was sentenced by a district court on Wednesday after the constitutional court in October rejected her petition against the decades-old law.

Ok had admitted having an affair with a pop singer but blamed it on a loveless marriage to actor husband Park Chul, who had sued her and two of her alleged lovers. She had argued that the law infringed the right of individual choice in sexual relations. But the constitutional court ruled that adultery should remain a crime punishable by jail. It was the fourth time the court had refused to overturn the legislation, introduced in 1953. Ok was given a suspended eight-month jail term by the court in Goyang city, 30km northwest of Seoul.

"Committing adultery with an acquaintance of the spouse is something to be denounced. However, the accuser (Park) should also be blamed for being negligent in family life," the court said in a statement."It should also be taken into account that the accused, a celebrity whose private life has been laid bare to the public, has suffered enough pain."

The 38-year-old pop singer, who was not publicly identified, received a suspended six-month jail sentence.Ok's petition rekindled debate over whether adultery should be a crime punishable by up to two years in jail.

Some women's groups contend the law must be maintained to protect female rights in a traditionally male-dominated society. Critics say it breaches an individual's right to sexual choice and is outdated. Some lawmakers are pushing for a bill to repeal the legislation. The law is usually invoked only when a husband or wife complains of a partner's adultery. He or she must follow up the complaint by filing for divorce.

According to a survey quoted by newspapers last year, nearly 68 percent of South Korean men and 12 percent of women confessed to having sex outside marriage. Court data shows the number of people jailed for adultery has declined sharply over the years. Last year, 1,190 people were indicted but only 47 were jailed and 592 were given suspended sentences.

http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,24813882-2703,00.html

Manlaw: Let me first say that this is a fawked-up law in South Korea. With that said, O.K. So-Ri and any male that voilates this law should be lucky the penalty isn't castration. See, if that was the penalty, I think adultery would be WAY down (no pun intended). But the interesting stat is the survey done by South Korean newspapers that said "nearly 68 percent of South Korean men and 12 percent of women confessed to having sex outside of marriage." Now, you know someone is lying here and when there is such a disparity in the polling, I am throwing the dirt on the women. These men are not cheating by themselves. Women have much more incentive to lie about sex than men so they will not be seen as loose. To correct this irregularity, you should multiply the women's precentage by at least 3 to bring it to 36 percent. That's more believable.

The New 50-50

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/asia-pacific/7661786.stm
Cambodian couple cut home in half

Mr Rim's half of the house has been moved to an undisclosed location
An estranged couple in Cambodia have sawn their house in half to avoid the country's convoluted divorce process.
Moeun Rim and his wife, Nhanh, who have been married nearly 40 years, split the building last week following an argument, local officials said.
Mr Rim has removed his share of the property and the couple have also divided their land into four parts; two for their children, and two for them.
Divorce cases in Cambodia can be costly and may take a long time to settle.
The house - or one half of the house - is located in Prey Veng province, about 90km (56 miles) from the capital, Phnom Penh.

In sickness and health

The couple fell out after Mr Rim accused his wife of neglecting him whilst he was ill.
"We tried to persuade them to think clearly before they did this because they had been married for nearly 40 years," local chief Vorng Morn told the Phnom Penh Post newspaper.
"But they did not listen," he said.
A local lawyer told the newspaper that dividing a property was legal if both parties had agreed to it - but that it did not mean the pair were legally divorced.
"If in the future they have any disagreements, the provincial chief will not be responsible, as there had not been a judgment from the court," Prak Phin said.

P.S. a.k.a "the manlaw"

This gives a new definition to the phrase "50-50" and it better not catch on in the United States. Always judge a relationship by the bad times and how she's able to deal with it. Once you have your answer, then you'll know if you need to cut your loses in half and be done with it.

The new punishment for not doing housework?

A 20-year-old Fort Worth, TX woman will have a lot of explaining to do before a judge after she's accused of an aggravated assault charge after police say she bit her boyfriend, broke a picture frame across his face and swung at him with a sword during an argument about him not doing the dishes.

You know this didn't start and most likely will not end (that's if he's not dead next time) with the dishes. This woman has ISSUES and it most likely has nothing to do with him. He probably isn't a saint either but when you bite someone, break a picture frame across someone's face and swing a sword...YOU ARE TRYING TO CAUSE unrepairable damage.

Hence the manlaw: There is no honor is getting beat up by your girlfriend and for god's sake move out of the way or at least duck the next time she goes on a war path. Unless the girlfriend is an Olympic gold medalist in wrestling, softball or fencing, a healthy male should be able to fend off a woman. Either that or hit the gym. Sheeesh.

Caught With Your Pants Down...

This appeared on Craig's list and I have to give a fist pound to the woman that obviously wrote the following item.

Found : Your Panties (Please Come Get Them) (222 Curlew St, Rochester, NY 14613)

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Reply to: comm-821755873@craigslist.org ^[?]
Date: 2008-09-01, 1:40AM EDT


Found:

Hi. I found your panties and I was wondering if you want them back. You left them at my house between August 18 and August 23 while I was in the hospital delivering my son. I don't know who you are, but obviously you know my husband.

Anyways, I would like you to come and get them. I am not going to assault you or threaten you, or say or do anything against you, this is obviously my husband's wrong doing. I'm honestly not even sure that you knew he was married. He might have even told you some BS story just to get into your panties...which you forgot to take with you.

For all of you reading this who think it is a joke, I assure you that it is not. My husband, however finds it to be a hoot. He even tried to tell me that they must be mine and I am mistaken. This is not the case. First off, I have bought all of my own underwear, so I know what I own. Secondly, I have not worn panties in this size for 2 years, so I am sure that I would vividly remember seeing them in my underwear drawer for 2 years. Third, if they were mine, being that they are too small, they would not have ended up in my laundry because I would not be able to wear them.

If you are not sure that they are yours, I have attached a photo and will leave a description of the panties below. No explanation on your part is required, but if you are interested in testifying in court to pay him back for treating you like a piece of meat, I am happy to oblige you, it is your choice. If these are your panties, please e-mail me and I will give you the address you can pick them up at, though I'm sure you all ready know it.

Specs on Said Panties:

*Size 6

*Magenta fabric with black stitching around the gathering on the lower half.

"Love and Kisses" applique on the front in light pink and black

Small silver heart charm attached to black bow on the front, center.

My husband wanted to keep them, but I managed to pull them from his grasp after I threw them at him. I figure someone might want them back. Again, no explanation on your part is necessary. If you want, I will even mail them to your address or your friend's address so that you don't have to meet me. They are even freshly washed, since I did not notice them until I took them out of the dryer tonight with a load of my laundry.

Thanks!

Sometimes a manlaw writes itself: The guy indirectly mentioned in this post needs to turn in his player card IMMEDIATELY. He shouldn't pass Go and he damn sure isn't collecting $200 (he's probably going to pay 10 times that in a divorce settlement. If he was that careless to leave incriminating evidence around...then he deserves whatever punishment his wife dishes out.

Black is Beautiful..

And Susan Crain Bakos wrote an essay about it.

Like to read it? Here you go...

You have to give it to her because she does bring up some interesting points.

Wingman Rules!

My boy Jesse broke this down recently to myself and some other fiends and I felt it was my civic duty to disseminate his manifesto to America.

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Ok....we know the ladies have mastered the arts of having their Wingpersons...be he gay man, lady friend, or Mother Hen types, they WILL ruin the fun for everyone because you don't deviate from the plan that was agreed upon when everyone was less horny and drunk. But we men have allowed homophobia and cuckolding women to break up the bond and merit of the beloved "wingman."

I'm reminded of the old Bud Light commercial with the two brothers on a double dinner date when another honey catches one's eye. For those who don't know the Wingman has a different responsibility than the Wingwoman.

Therefore I feel it's my responsibility to offer a refresher course and outline the rules.

WINGMAN RULES


1) It's best to establish before going out who is to "take one for the team" or who is "overdue" for his Leadman role.

2) The Wingman is a mutual role for all parties involved. Unless agreed upon before hitting the scene, whomever gets the hookup first (Leadman), the other(s) must collectively support Leadman until the mission is accomplished.

3) Leave your heart at home. If you're thinking about a lost or distant love, suck it up and be a Wingman to your boy!

4) No cock blockin'! If you're boy already has an in with a lady you've had an eye on, you have 2 options; A) let your boy know and leave it up to HIM to step back (no forcing him to) or B) stick to your duties as a Wingman and act faster next time.

SETTING UP

1) If the decision is made that a spokesperson from the group is to introduce you to the cutie (clearing the brushes if you will), the lead man is NOT, repeat NOT to make eye contact or ever look in the general direction of target until the spokesperson returns. Leadman/Setup should busy himself in convincing conversation...preferably with a woman. Exceptions to the "return" rule include the phone text or another Wingman giving him the "clear."

2) Once the Leadman has an in, the others must do what's necessary to keep things on track. Once Leadman is set, next Leadman is given support.

Group Guys & Group Ladies Mingle:

1)Under NO circumstances are any two couples to hold a private conversation. Two couple break off are the minimum group reduction.

2)Women will find weak Wingman and cause him to divulge the group's weakness, shattering everyone's prospects once word reaches Mother Hen. Answer and/or avoid personal questions about you or wing men accordingly when on the dance floor.

3)NEVER answer a question about your boy unless it's a 100% positive image answer. Questions about other Wingman are answered ONLY in the paired up couple or group presence.

4)Never bicker about money or who is picking up the tab in front of the ladies. Cover your broke ass wingman and cash him out later!

5)Never flash cash in front of the ladies.

Disseminating Information:

1) Always check your Wingman for the grooming keys regularly: hair, collar, fly, breath, sweat, straight clothing. Bring it to their attention ASAP and as discreetly as possible!

2) Children, marriage, pregnancies, smoking, ugly feet, bad breath, bulge between legs, Adam's apple, bad teeth, man hater, possible lesbian, stuffed bras, and weaves should be brought to the attention of ALL members ASAP!! Especially the Leadman. If he looks bad, everyone looks bad! *see below on ABORT PROTOCOL*

3) Needless to say, while looking out for what you like, if you catch a honey eying your boy, you let him know.

4) Always share the eye candy love. Hoggin' up the long legs, Dancefloor Queen, braless honey, or jigglin' butt will get your wings clipped and or "set up" with a #2.

5) NEVER point, provide GOOD landmarks. "9 o'clock in red dress about 5' 7"" Making your boy(s) look all over the place makes the whole group look bad and hungry. Exception to the pointing rule is when a "quick look or miss it " reaction is needed. Do NOT abuse this exception.

ABORT PROTOCOL:

1) Choosing to abort an ongoing "get to know" MUST have agreed approval of at least 2 Wingman before initiating. This is to confirm that reasons for aborting are within the rules of engagement and/or weighed against the potential and likely results of continuing engagement.

2) Abort Level is to be determined 1) GET HIM OUTTA THERE ASAP 2) He's been over there long enough, save that for getting to know later b/c we have bigger fish to fry OR we got a better hook up for him 3) Bring it to his attention and let him make his own decision.

3) The Wingman currently not engaged in a "fast track" conversation with a woman, is to do whatever is necessary to bring the information and recommendation of the group to the Leadman without causing a scene.

PRESENCE

1) make sure each and every pose you hold says MAN. Just like when dancing, never have your arms or hands looking restless.

2) Give your boys room. This ain't Football, no need to huddle. Plus real men take up space they don't need even in a crowd, cuz who's gonna tell them they can't? NO ONE that's who!

3) No staying together for more than 5 min. Good conversation or not, just as lead conversation is to be shared, so is the "lookout" role. Share the responsibility of being the "one" who ventures out to the "chickenhead" cluck group gathered up in the corner or by the bar. Every once in a while, just straight break up and scout the place.

Fellas.....anything I miss?

Wifey Material: How Do You Stack Up?

No. 1 Quality Men Want in a Wife
(from aol.com)

Filed under: Attraction & Chemistry, Friends & Family, Dating, Commitment & Marriage


The adage is true: Men tend to marry a woman who is like their mother.

We're not talking looks or personality. It's even bigger than that. We're talking life direction. Whether a young man's mother earned a college degree and whether she worked outside the home while he was growing up seems to have an effect years later when he considers his ideal wife, according to a study by University of Iowa sociologist Christine Whelan, author of "Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women."

High-achieving men, that is those who earn salaries in the top 10 percent for their age and/or have a graduate degree, are highly likely to marry a woman whose education level mirrors their mom's.

Nearly 80 percent of the high-achieving men whose mothers had college degrees married women with college degrees, and 19 percent of them married women with graduate degrees. Of men whose moms had graduate degrees, 62 percent tied the knot with graduate degree holders, and 27 percent said "I do" to women with college degrees.

Sixty-eight percent of high-achieving men agreed with the statement, "Smart women make better mothers."

"Successful men in their 20s and 30s today are the sons of a pioneering generation of high-achieving career women. Their mothers serve as role models for how a woman can be nurturing and successful at the same time," said Whelan, a visiting assistant professor of sociology in the UI College of Liberal Arts and Sciences. "One man I interviewed put it like this: 'If your mother is a success, you don't have any ideas of success and family that exclude a woman from working.'"

Fun facts about men and their mothers:

-- 72 percent of mothers of high-achieving men worked outside the home after they had children.

-- Among those men, 75 percent agreed or strongly agreed with the statement "Men are more attracted to women who are successful in their careers."

-- Men who grew up with working moms were almost twice as likely to marry a woman who makes $50,000 or more per year.

-- 62 percent of high-achieving single men disagreed with this statement: "Women who are stay-at-home parents are better mothers than women who work outside the home."

-- 75 percent of the high-achieving men disagreed with this statement: "It is usually better for everyone involved if the man is the achiever outside the home and the woman takes care of the home and family."

"These young men saw their mothers as smart women who could choose to work outside the home, and now that they're making decisions about what they want in a wife, it seems that they are choosing similar types of women," said graduate student Christie Boxer, who assisted with the research.

Manlaw: Ladies get to know a man's mother very closely. He might not admit this to your face but in some way he's comparing you to his mother to see how you stack up.

Who wants to be a millionaire? (Part 2)

Lisa Miceli is tarnishing the reputation of goldiggers.

She's already struck out twice on paternity tests with my man Michael Jordan and now she has the balls to ask him for a THIRD paternity test.

Umm...Michael finally said it is time to play some defense and sued her for harassment. That's probably the best defensive move Michael has made in a long time.

But serioulsy, how many times do you have to embarrass yourself?

What Black Men Think!

This was a very good PSA.

Why You Should Avoid Dating Single Mothers!

I can't say I agree with every thing said here, but the man does make some valid points.

I've never dated a single mother myself but I'll have to reference the checklist if I ever come across one soon.