So yes we have not posted in a while... But today I was fired up so I had to write.
So I went to the lunchroom and my co-workers were at a table discussing things.
So I was told a tale by the female in the group.
She tells me her boyfriend of over a year and half asked for a watch and a suit for Christmas.
She says she will give him the suit but not the watch.
So I say buy that dude his "Cartier".
She says she is not buying the watch because of some old wives tale.
"If you buy a watch, watch him leave you."
I was like what in the hell.
Now full disclosure. My boy had on a watch given by an ex and they broke up.
So then the female goes on by saying, if you get married, all of that goes by the waste side.
I am like is this another way for a woman to get a man to marry them. If that's the case, bump that mess.
MANLAW: When asking for a gift beware of the hidden implications of such a request!
13 comments:
LOL!
There is another to says "If you buy a sig other a pair of shoes, they will walk out of your life."
Not sure If I believe any of them, but I know people who do and have tried to prove so.
Old wives tales are just that. Show me an old lady who doesn't buy, or select, all her husband's stuff, and I'll show you a couple that's only together out of convenience.
These new chicks need to get their minds right, or else they'll stay alone, bitter, ignorant and downright dumb.
@ m-dubb: "Show me an old lady who doesn't buy, or select, all her husband's stuff, and I'll show you a couple that's only together out of convenience."
I'm sorry. How is that to make sense? It reads: A woman must dictate what a man will have buy selecting or buying it, else they are together out of convenience. Please explain.
Now, I'm not a fan of old wives' tales. I think they are silly. But, I also believe it is selfish for someone to ask for a suit and a watch for Christmas. Whatever happened to being grateful for the thoughtfulness or appreciation someone has for you by selecting a gift they feel is symbolic? Why should the gift impose a financial expectation?
And, to say that women will "stay alone, bitter, ignorant and downright dumb" would indicate that they are already so. Rather an assumption and generalization, wouldn't you say? To use so many ugly words to describe women also sounds a little defensive. You sure you're not the one who's bitter?
@ Skinny: To the actual argument in your post: Wives' tales are superstitions. Some may well be intended to sway a guy into marrying his woman. I think all of it is silly. And, you shouldn't be asking for sh*t in the first place. Let someone do for you as they feel and as they are able. To ask otherwise is to impose material expectation (which I believe has no place in a relationship in the first place).
I especially don't like that one that says: "if you lie down with dogs, you'll get up with fleas." That one is so wrong and hurts me when I'm trying to mack on some poddles.
Check out this old article in Essence. This woman claims some of these wives tales are true.
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1264/is_n2_v21/ai_9067731
@ tupac: Some of them have come true in my experience -- buy a woman shoes and she'll use them to walk out of your life. My ex-fiance bought me shoes all the time and damn right I walked out of his life. But, that would be because of some sh*t he did. . not because of the shoes. LOL You can make superstitions appear to work just like you can make horoscopes appear true, too.
If you're a real man to her, those old wives tales won't matter. So drop your insecurity about what she's thinking and be real. The fact that the woman didn't buy the watch probably meant she had doubts, not that the man might leave her. And another thing, don't make rules based on someone else's relationship. You'll end up losing everytime.
You didn't know that? That's not just an old wives' tale. That's the truth. Quickest way to get rid of a man: give him a watch. I learned that a looooooong time ago.
**sighs**
Who the hell asks for something as random as a watch and a suit? Whatever happened to being original and just being like, "Suprise me?"
I love picking out gifts for people because (not to toot my own horn or anything) I'm damn good at it. And I like to see the suprise on their faces.
@ bz: You are sort of right. I once had a girlfriend who got fleas, not because she was getting with a dog, but because she was straight up dirty and lying with a posse of mutts. Had nothing to do with me. On that ex-fiance of yours, we should say, 'buy your woman some shoes while you're a dog, and watch her kick you to the curb...'
everybody has their beliefs. if they get a person through the day, more power to them, although i don't see how beliefs such as this one can be anything less than destructive towards a relationship.
m-dubb...your last statement was bitter, ignant, and downright dumb. evidently if it was a chick, it'd never get laid.
I will back up the first part of M-dubbs comment. Most married dudes I know are basically dressed by their wives...not all but a good number. Hell even my female co-workes get comfortable and try to start suggesting clothes and even home decorating ideas. No thanks.
Wives tales suck.
Old wives tales are for old wives.
If he leaves her, there must've been bigger problems....
There is some truth to that wives tale. I bought me and this dude matching Movado watches. Funny thing, when the battery in mine died, so did our relationship. Coincidence? I think not.
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