We've all dated this chic at some point, and if you haven't, you will. We don't hate her, generally, because usually she means well. Let's say her heart's in the right place, but her priorities, well, they're a different story.
The chic of whom I speak is Miss Misdirected, as in misguided and confused about her priorities. She's the woman who is constantly telling you about what she wants out of her life or relationship, but whose actions say tell a completely different story. This takes many forms, so in the unlikely event you've not yet run into her (which means she's around the corner plotting on you -- RIGHT NOW), allow me to run down some examples of her ill behavior.
Miss Misdirected is the woman you've dated for a while who pledges her undying love for you, for whom all conversations tear down a path toward matrimony: When will it be? Why not sooner? Why not now? Unfortunately for her, when it comes to her outlook on actually doing wifely things -- cooking, keeping the muhfuggin house clean, giving you the Billy Clint relaxation treatment on a regular basis, et cetera -- Miss Misdirected wants to flip the script. Why, she'll ask, would I want to do that for somebody who doesn't know whether he wants to be with me?
How about WHY would any man want to be with a woman who asks such silly questions? This woman would be better off having she and her friends dress up in wedding gowns just to experience her fantasy, and then return to her regular life afterwards.
But let's not wallow in trivial things here: how often she cleans up or gets on her knees does not a woman make. A real sign you're dealing with Miss Misdirected is that she's not yet grasped what real priorities are, and she wants to project her own immaturity onto others, especially YOU. She wants the man, but doesn't believe she's got any work to do on herself to get him. She has a so-so relationship, but believes the only compromising that should be done to make it better should be on his part. She's just fine, thank you. She wants a better career, better life, better whatever -- but just can't see that her own, old, bad habits are holding her back.
But make no mistake, fellas: if you recognize the symptoms of this ailment but don't see them in your own woman, then Miss Misdirected just might be you.
6 comments:
"Unfortunately for her, when it comes to her outlook on actually doing wifely things -- cooking, keeping the muhfuggin house clean, giving you the Billy Clint relaxation treatment on a regular basis ..."
Wifely things? Um, this isn't 1952, so we need to ditch the antiquated "logic," if you want to call it that.
"Wife" and "maid" are NOT synonymous. Maybe you should learn to cook and clean up after yourself, because cooking and cleaning are human things, i.e. meant for BOTH sexes.
You know, women work too. And sometimes we want to relax, just like you. So if you want a woman to be nice to you, maybe you should start by viewing her as an equal and showing a little more reciprocity.
Understood?
Calm down girlie, he gave the disclaimer that the cooking and sex are not all that makes a good woman. And yes, I know chicks like this. 'Cause the other thing they do is ask their friends (ME) for advice but then do the exact opposite which is usually some bullshit. Then they sitting around wondering why the hell they ain't got no man.
Ok, but also PoppaPimp, is this the same chick who you told a million times that you ain't tryin to get married? If she ain't figured the shit our yet, go get her a CAT scan, cause something ain't working right between her ears.
Now, why do you not have a man? Cause bitch, you crazy. And yes these are the chicks that are obssessed with getting married. What is the big deal with that shit anyway? And finally, if you are in what is considered a personal relationship with the man, ain't nothing wrong with taking care of him.
Just my two pennies. :)
I aint gonna front, I can be HER .
Is this the same chick that's punishing you for all the mistakes her former boyfriends made?
I find it funny that despite women wanting men to do all of the things that we've always done. It gets real testy if you mention them doing any of the things they used to do.
Marriage is a huge step and it takes more than a coke and a dream to enter into and maintain.
One thing that I would like to ask or point out is: How long does it take to figure out that this person is Misdirected? And, did any of your behavior contribute to her Misdirection?
All to often we, Men and Women, create the proverbial monster and then can't figure out why this person acts or says certain things... You settled for less than what you were looking for from the beginning then get mad at them for being what you settled for. That's backwards.
In my opinion, you hit the nail on the head when you said that YOU, PGS, just may be Misdirected...
...Dynasty has posted some excellent points and questions....
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